Praying about irrational fear and my son

bevhembree · Post by **bevhembree** » Thu Mar 20, 2008 5:35 pm

You might remember that my 8 year old's teacher called my ex,having noticed he was acting funny. We were concerned and didn't know what to do. My husband sets me down tonight and explains what he's seen. A very shy, inward-focused, almost sad boy who comes out of his shell after a way and is happy as he can be. We can't figure out what is going on and what to do about it. I try to talk to him but....
I got no choice but to keep watching and asking the Lord to be with him. I'm crying and my heart is breaking. I would trade places with him to take away whatever is bothering. Now, just praying for God to lead us into reaching him and for him to feel comfortable opening up so we can help him through it. My mind is like a ping pong ball with all the possibilities. SO there won't be sleep for me unless I honestly turn it over to God. Your prayers in lifting him up would be greatly appreciated. Thanks, Bev

Believer08 · Post by **Believer08** » Thu Mar 20, 2008 8:05 pm

You got it Bev. I have a 9 year old and I'm going through alot of similarities as you are. I annoint her head every night and I speak blessings over her and then of course I take it to prayer. I will definitely pray for your little boy.....and of course for you as well.

Jannacle · Post by **Jannacle** » Sun Mar 23, 2008 5:04 pm

My 9 year old daughter is having some troubles too. I feel guilty because I think that my condition has been troubling me lately and it may have caused her upset. My biggest fear is that I will not be a good parent and my children will be messed up like me.

Boon · Post by **Boon** » Mon Mar 24, 2008 8:08 am

The first thing you need to do, Jannacle, is embrace yourself. You are not messed up. Rephrase that statement. We must embrace, accept our own phobic nature. We make it so bad to be phobic. Nobody is perfect. You work with what you have to work with. You are special and let your little girl know that she is special, too, inspite of her phobias. It's inherited. You can't beat yourself up for that. It will help both of you to focus on the gifts you bring this world and the gifts that your child brings this world. I know there are many.

Maeggie · Post by **Maeggie** » Tue Mar 25, 2008 7:11 am

My Dearest Beverly,

I completely understand your worry, there is a natural instinct there as well, I agree with Boon, <span class="ev_code_GREEN"> The first thing you need to do, Jannacle, is embrace yourself. You are not messed up. Rephrase that statement. We must embrace, accept our own phobic nature. We make it so bad to be phobic. Nobody is perfect. You work with what you have to work with. You are special and let your little girl know that she is special, too, inspite of her phobias. It's inherited. You can't beat yourself up for that. It will help both of you to focus on the gifts you bring this world and the gifts that your child brings this world </span>

that is a wonderful instinct to have, even when it doesnt always mean something positive.. I always pray for you and your family but I will make a special request for him. Do you think seeing someone would help? In Ontario there are programs for children (only children) that counsel and help children, they are social workers and therapists- it is called KEYSTONE YOUTH SERVICES- 1-519-371-4773 - 845 2nd Avenue East, Owen Sound ON CAN N4K 2H2 - perhaps you could give them a call, (I know separate areas) but you never know perhaps they have an associate somewhere? knowledge is power.. perhaps he needs someone outside the box to open up to. My friend has been going through this lately with her son whose 12, however, he saw someone(only once for him) and felt much better, he was able to decide which parent he wanted to live with and that was all he needed. He's doing great now. Just a thought..

Please give yourself some credit and do something NICE FOR YOU today.. even just a little thing, have a bath, read a book, just for you.. have comfort in the fact god will guide your son, he will protect him, when the time is right it will on fall into place, (keep in mind your sons hormones may be starting and depression/anxiety is also genetic) Life isnt always easy, even for kids.. have faith in his 'growth spurt'..

Best wishes always doll!

xo

bevhembree · Post by **bevhembree** » Tue Mar 25, 2008 1:49 pm

Oh Maeggie, HORMONES- UUHHH- you may be exactly right about that happening to him. Surely it can't be as bad as when my daughter hit that time. Anybody out there who can weigh in on boy's hormones?? I am clueless.... Bev

*D* · Post by ***D*** » Tue Mar 25, 2008 2:15 pm

bev and all others,
all my kids are grown and i can not help you with that but the ones whose children are needinG help i will pary for all of you.i know what it was like when they were small and their age..to long ago but good momories. hang in there and GOD BLESS
DON

Jennifier · Post by **Jennifier** » Tue Mar 25, 2008 2:51 pm

I just wanted to add my two cents in...I think it is pretty weird that all of our kids are around the same age and we are all struggling with them this past week. My daughter is 7 she will be 8 in Sept. and boy have I had my hands full. I will be praying for all of you! I know how it is to feel stuck. Bev, when the Lord wants you to know he will show you so don't worry he is listening. God bless you all and keep your heads up because it WILL get better.

Jennifier

Maeggie · Post by **Maeggie** » Thu Mar 27, 2008 7:57 am

Hi Bev, yes hormones, my coworkers daughter is 11 and started her period recently, she is completely out of control, she was crying in the shower the other morning and when her mom asked why she said "I dont know I just cant stop" PMS!?!? nonetheless I would talk to your doc or a ped. They would know exactly what to look for (hormone wise)

Please keep me posted!