obsessive thoughts that just won't stop

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Jan 04, 2008 7:23 am

I realize that my answers to my post are pretty much above...i'd just like someone to answer so i can calm myself. i hate feeling this way and am upset i'm caught up in this thought

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Jan 04, 2008 7:34 am

I wish I had advice for you. I really don't, but I empathize with being locked in my mind that get's to think what it wants, and all I can do is try to not get anxious about the thoughts that are generated. The "easier said than done" advice is to concentrate on picturing your competence as a parent, and if there's a specific thing that frightens you, read up on it, and talk about that specific fear instead of letting the random thoughts become entrenched and distract you from what's really scaring you. Best wishes!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Jan 04, 2008 8:09 am

thanks for your response, i don't know what my actual anxiety about having kids is but probably just the responsibility of having them, i know i'm going to be a good mom and i've wanted this for a very long time. i just get myself going with the what if's and when reading things like i did, i scare myself with the thoughts and get stuck.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Jan 05, 2008 3:58 am

angelisa,
Im not a doctor, but it sounds like an obsessive compulsive problem. do some research, and dont try to sidetrack the the thought, it will get worse if you do. actually, if you feel brave enough, go into the bathroom and stand there, with your finger perched on your tongue, the fact that your scared of this and it obviously bothers you this much is really proof that its an obsessive thought.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Jan 07, 2008 3:29 am

I am getting these responses a little late have not checked the sitein a few days.Thanks so much for all of the support! I was really feeling super depressed today, I have been feeling lately like no one understands this condition.I have mentioined it to my husband he is such a loving caring person, but he has no idea what i am going through has a lot on him at the time with work and all. I don't want to burden him with this but then i feel like who else do i have to turn to.I am still having the obssessive thoughts about sticking my finger in my throat yet i still have not done it but it is so scary that my thoughts are telling me to do it and i don't want the thoughts to win and i definitely don't want to develop an eating disorder i have been on line looking up the dangers of self induced vomiting hoping that something would scare me enough to make the thought stop. Please help! any advice would be helpful i feel as if these thoughts will never stop.

Gman5256 · Post by **Gman5256** » Wed Jan 09, 2008 3:05 am

Please somebody Help!

I can't stop my thoughts ( scary ones) I was doing ok but today for some reason they won't stop!!!!! Can someone help,Please! I need prayer!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jan 09, 2008 5:14 am

Don't try to stop them. That's the same as encouraging them to stay! Practice allowing the thoughts to come and go. Just let them be there going in and out. They don't have to affect you like this. They really aren't a big deal and you're not going to act on any of them. Your mind has you so buffaloed and you react. With every reaction comes another squirt of adrenaline (which is uncomfortable but harmless). When you learn to stop reacting to your thoughts they will slow down and not bother you anymore. Use your stop sign! Then your calm breath. Then get busy in the present moment and stay focused as best you can on whatever you are doing. Another thing - tell this ego-thinking mind what you think of it. Chew it out. Tell it you are tired of its rantings and ravings. You are tired of it running your life. You are tired of it scaring you everyday. Really chew it out.

Persevere with these exercises. They will work for you but you must do the work first.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jan 09, 2008 10:18 am

I couldn't have said it better myself. You have to stop fighting. They will go away . It's just your mind "playing games" with you. Try to focus on something that will keep your mind busy, like cleaning, listening to music, etc., just to get your mind on something else. Those negative thoughts are not true anyway. I use to have horrible thoughts daily that I just couldn't shake. I tried so hard, many days, to get them out of my head until I found that I wasdoing the wrong thing- I was supposed to do the opposite. It really works.

Take care. DeeDee.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jan 09, 2008 12:28 pm

Boon and DeeDee-

I understand what you are saying, but they are horrific images and thoughts they go over and over like so repetative and the when that one stops a new one pops in.....How do I just that that thought in and not react or get anxious about it, it terriies me. Then when I just say "whatever to these thoughts" I wonder omg why am I not worrying about them does that mean I am going to do it? Does that make sense...I hope I don't sound crazy, just feel paranoid....

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jan 09, 2008 2:17 pm

Well I can say I have had these types of thoughts off and on for about a year now. They come and go...and for me the ones that bother me the most stick around the longest...but in the end they pass by once you realize you won't act on it. I have been scared many times and referred to chapter 10, just for reassurance. The first time was with knives and thoughts about hurting people. The first time was the scariest. I asked my doctor and he said it is just a form of OCD. I felt strange when I told my doctor about these thoughts. I was expecting a reaction like "we're going to lock this guy up" but he just dismissed it as part of anxiety. So when you get that type of reaction and know you're not going crazy it allows you to relax a little. Now I haven't figured out how to eliminate them...but I can deal with them much better.
Good luck.........Ed