obsessing about unwanted thoughts

finding happiness · Post by **finding happiness** » Sun Nov 16, 2008 2:39 pm

Lets also all try to remember..it is unreasonable to expect that we will never think the things we have set up as scary to us. It will happen but it will get to a point where we will realize that what we are thinking, may not be soo bad. The anxiety triggered things to seem really bad. As I heal, I notice that what I am afraid to think, isn't always that bad. It in fact, is sometimes quite normal. The fear can make everything seem so scary that after awhile, you don't know what is normal and not normal. But it gets better. I am healing now. I can feel that.

Lynnier · Post by **Lynnier** » Sun Nov 16, 2008 2:52 pm

It just felt so good to have those thoughts go away, and to spend a few days without slipping into the thought patterns that triggered anxiety. I wanted it to stay that way forever, then in the midst of a relaxing day, they sprang up, and it seemed like they came out of nowhere. Of course, negative thoughts came into my mind, and turned the situation into something it wasn't. I should take comfort in the fact that I am aware of what is happening, and am trying to find ways of stopping it. I didn't over-react, and I did make it through the evening without moving myself into a panic attack or times of anxiety. It passed and though I am edgy, I am nowhere near where I would have been a week, or even a few days ago. Progress....right? I'm still amazed at how much better I feel, even after a few days.
Thanks for sharing, it has helped a great deal!

kriskam01 · Post by **kriskam01** » Mon Nov 17, 2008 1:21 pm

just wanted to share my latest news. i still have the unwanted thoughts but i can kind of blow them off. everyday is getting better and better and just listening to josh groban "you raise me up" omg i felt like myself again. i closed my eyes and just like hugged myself within. it feels soooo good to be feeling a lil better

obsessive · Post by **obsessive** » Fri Jan 30, 2009 3:39 am

Hi,

I am new to this program. Back in December I started worrying that maybe my boyfriend and i weren't right for eachother mainly because i was insecure that maybe he would leave me. I started to feel down and then when I saw him, it made me feel different towards him and brought on a full fledged anxiety episode. It has been a month and all i do is obsess over this feeling of fear that I am going to end our relationship, or that he will ask me to marry him and i will say no or break off an engagement. or that he will break up with me first because of the way I am feeling and the things i say and do. These thoughts torture me. I know that I love him and I want to be with him. I have no reason not to, but I can't stop these thoughts and this feeling when I am around him or talk to him. Even when I'm not with him and doing something else it is all I think about. It is making me feel crazy and I am slowly pushing him away and confusing him. Has anyone else experienced this? I can't even sleep right because these thoughts constantly interfere and i feel guilty all the time, especially when he is extra sweet to me. It makes me freak out because the thoughts won't stop. I get super anxious and depressed about it. And I know if we broke up, all I would do is obsess over how to get him back. I want my life back and I don't want to ruin this. Any suggestions would be helpful...Am I serously going nuts?

thirtysomething · Post by **thirtysomething** » Fri Jan 30, 2009 4:38 pm

I too sometimes have scary thoughts and then worry and obsess over them. I wish I could let them just pop out when they pop in but I feel scared just because something that bad came into my mind and I wonder if I could ever really do that. Like some of you mentioned with hurting myself or others. Then I start wondering and what if-ing about it. I have never done anything like that and don't ever want to and don't think I ever could ,but it scares my and I wonder if I could just lose it and do something crazy like that. Once they start how do you dismiss it and not obsess?

WorriedSilly21 · Post by **WorriedSilly21** » Mon Feb 16, 2009 10:35 pm

Hello,
I am new to all of this and very very happy I found this website. I two have been trying to deal with horrible thoughts. I have had the fear of hurting my dog or myself. I know in my heart I would never hurt my dog but find myself when I am in a panic state questioning it when I know I should'nt. I am still trying to find a way to fix it. Its hard when you are scared to be around your own dog because it might bring up the fear and thoughts. Does anyone have any advice???? Im going mad over it and feel so sad. I love my dog so much and dont want these thoughts.

Gman5256 · Post by **Gman5256** » Mon Feb 16, 2009 11:08 pm

Hi worriedsilly,

If you are having thoughts of hurting yourself, your dog, both or either; you need to seek professional help. The good thing is that you recognize there is a problem.

Since you love your dog and I expect, you love yourself, try to remain calm. If you know about the breathing and relaxation techniques do them immediately. If you don't know about them. It is simple take a deep breath in for a count of 1001, 1002. Hold it and then let it out for a 1001, 1002, 1003, 1004 and keep repeating this and do it every time you feel the onset of a panic attack the moment you realize it.

Then, as soon as you feel more comfortable, either show you dog some love or play with him/her.

If the thoughts creep in again, go back to the breathing, and try some relaxing music if you have the relaxation CD listen to it, if not try this music: <A HREF="http://www.shirleycason.com/" TARGET=_blank>http://www.shirleycason.com/</A>

I hope this helps you get through those moments when you have any scarey thoughts. The good thing is that you have a nice dog that you love and loves to be loved and loves you back unconditionally.

Now, try to get and remain calm.

In His Love, hugs

Gman5256

Ld26angell · Post by **Ld26angell** » Tue Feb 17, 2009 5:01 am

Hi GUys!!
Please read my post in the triumphs section.

Also check out this website.
I dealt with them for THREE years and I am recovered.
It is SO possible. Trust yourself, trust the program and keep on doing it.
Relax, breathe, an tell yourself the TRUTH!!
It is only a thought. It cannot hurt you and you are NOT CRAZY for having them. There is a name for it.
ANXIETY but it is so treatable. Please trust me!!
In the meantime read this article and print it out, take it with you, it helped me tremendously!!
Take care everyone,
Lisa

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flower74 · Post by **flower74** » Wed Feb 18, 2009 7:16 am

I have been plagued with scary thoughts too. My husband in lying in an ER hospital bed & the thought maybe he'll die runs through my head. This crushed me. I didn't know what to think. Where did that come from. I obsess about not having obsessive thoughts. Currently taking Zoloft, but this makes me feel somewhat emotionally dull. Try to distract yourself, remind yourself it is only a thought, and proceed with this program. Chin up! We are strong!