Yeah, I second that. This really is a great community.
My big mental hurdle right now is one of too much on my plate. I have it in my head that life is a really long time and I couldnt possibly be entertained for the duration.
That is just it, I need to be ok with being bored. Life is not always an adrenaline rush...and I need to learn to enjoy simplicity more.
Constant Negative Thinking
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Drugfree-reading your last post made me stop and think about my journey. I also find myself sometimes feeling like every day had to have a memorable event in it. I now try to realize that being able to live life is spectacular enough for me. I also have felt guilt due to my selfishness. It doesn't take a lot of looking around to find people who pray to have the life that we sometimes take for granted.
Keep going man. Reading your last post gave me a little more inspiration to live and be better.
Keep going man. Reading your last post gave me a little more inspiration to live and be better.
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Yesterday was a bit of a set back. I had a bit too much fun this past weekend and wore myself out. Nothing like a hangover to worsen the mood.
Im starting to come around to the idea of constantly focusing on the now. Its amazing how bad thoughts dissapear when you dont dwell in the past or hypothesize future events!
There is a certain calming feeling if you just force yourself into the moment. Its tough to think negative when you have no expectations. Right now I literally have to constantly pull myself back or forward...but im hopeful that in time it will become automatic thinking.
Has anyone been here?
Im starting to come around to the idea of constantly focusing on the now. Its amazing how bad thoughts dissapear when you dont dwell in the past or hypothesize future events!
There is a certain calming feeling if you just force yourself into the moment. Its tough to think negative when you have no expectations. Right now I literally have to constantly pull myself back or forward...but im hopeful that in time it will become automatic thinking.
Has anyone been here?
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It's always, always good to talk nice to yourself. Soothing, lovingly, supporting. Praise yourself and write down the wonderful qualities about you.
That said, you will probably notice how negative thoughts sneak in anyway. Your resistance to those negative thoughts keeps them coming back strong. You want to start to make it OK for those thoughts to be there. It's no big deal if they are there. Your emotions, your identification with them, your resistance to them is the only problem. Practice just noticing them and acknowledge that they are they with: "That's thought", or "that's feeling", or "that's memory", "that's sensation", etc. But that's all the attention you give them. Allow the thoughts to come and go. They have no power over you and only make you miserable by resisting them.
Continue to add to "your wonderful" list daily. Build yourself up with this list. Start with ten things and then add one a day. When you are upset, use soothing language to help you through it, but don't resist it. When you get anxious say, "It's OK. I can handle this. I will not abandon you." Let go of trying to make it go away. Embrace, allow and love yourself no matter what you are experiencing.
That said, you will probably notice how negative thoughts sneak in anyway. Your resistance to those negative thoughts keeps them coming back strong. You want to start to make it OK for those thoughts to be there. It's no big deal if they are there. Your emotions, your identification with them, your resistance to them is the only problem. Practice just noticing them and acknowledge that they are they with: "That's thought", or "that's feeling", or "that's memory", "that's sensation", etc. But that's all the attention you give them. Allow the thoughts to come and go. They have no power over you and only make you miserable by resisting them.
Continue to add to "your wonderful" list daily. Build yourself up with this list. Start with ten things and then add one a day. When you are upset, use soothing language to help you through it, but don't resist it. When you get anxious say, "It's OK. I can handle this. I will not abandon you." Let go of trying to make it go away. Embrace, allow and love yourself no matter what you are experiencing.
Put a stickie up where you can see it regularly - I AM COMFORTABLE FEELING UNCOMFORTABLE.
Start embracing what you find difficult to embrace. That is where you will find comfort. If there is something you need to do to change then you will do whatever that is in a loving and supportive way.
Start embracing what you find difficult to embrace. That is where you will find comfort. If there is something you need to do to change then you will do whatever that is in a loving and supportive way.
Life is too short to own an ugly boat. Step aboard for a wonderful journey!
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To DrugFree:
Just review sessions. I had a good girl too (crush since junior high) but unfortunately lost her b/c of all this ridiculous negative thinking of what MIGHT happen IF this and this happened, so I just stopped calling her. I couldn't drive at the time, so it was even more difficult. I tried a lot of things to cope w/ anxiety and depression. I heard about medical marijuana over the radio some odd weeks ago... never took drugs in my life, never drink either but desperate times call for desperate measures...I don't even know where to find this stuff
Just review sessions. I had a good girl too (crush since junior high) but unfortunately lost her b/c of all this ridiculous negative thinking of what MIGHT happen IF this and this happened, so I just stopped calling her. I couldn't drive at the time, so it was even more difficult. I tried a lot of things to cope w/ anxiety and depression. I heard about medical marijuana over the radio some odd weeks ago... never took drugs in my life, never drink either but desperate times call for desperate measures...I don't even know where to find this stuff
danthemankandy- There was at one time and still might be a medical marijuana store in Santa Barbara. Two friends of mine had a script for it from a psych. One friend said it helped her beyond belief for her anxiety, and the other one said it made her worse. Apparently it effects different people differently, just like anti depressants can.