Hi,
As most of you know from reading my post I am pregnant with my first child and I was so excited to be pregnant and now I am questioning myself for some unknown reason. I wonder am I really ready for this? Is this what I really wanted? Wouldn't it be much easier without this child on the way? I don't understand because we tried for 3 years to get pregnant and finally it happened and now this!!!
Please tell me someone else has experienced this??
Candi
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Having a child is a big responsibility, so its understandable that you are now questioning yourself. There are a lot of women on here who are pregant. Go on to the Parents forum and you will find alot of good advice. My daughter is 11 now, and i want to have another one, but often ? myself. Its a blessing, and after waiting 3 yrs , enjoy it. Good luck to you
I had similar feelings when I found out the I was pregnant, I think that some women do feel this way at some point in their pregnancy, your not alone with this. I think maybe you should speak with your doctor if this feeling persists after delivery.
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What you are feeling is totally normal. After I had my son (who is now 4 1/2 years old) I would sometimes hold him and cry and think "what have I done? Was this a mistake? Can I handle this? I'm not cut-out to be a parent!"
I suffered from post-partum anxiety and post-partum depression after I had my son. He was a very difficult (colicky) baby which didn't make it any easier. I told my Dr and she put me on prozac which helped immediately. Please, do not hesitate to ask for help!
It is very normal to doubt yourself, parenting is a big responsibility. It's very easy to doubt yourself, especially when you are tired, anxious, stressed out. But, I must tell you... that feeling passed. I have since had a little girl, she is 16 months old... and both of my children are the loves of my life! I CANNOT imagine life with out them now. There is not one day that goes by that I don't thank God for them.
You'll be a great mom! Trust your instincts and do not be afraid to ask anyone for help (friends, relatives, sig other, your DR).
I suffered from post-partum anxiety and post-partum depression after I had my son. He was a very difficult (colicky) baby which didn't make it any easier. I told my Dr and she put me on prozac which helped immediately. Please, do not hesitate to ask for help!
It is very normal to doubt yourself, parenting is a big responsibility. It's very easy to doubt yourself, especially when you are tired, anxious, stressed out. But, I must tell you... that feeling passed. I have since had a little girl, she is 16 months old... and both of my children are the loves of my life! I CANNOT imagine life with out them now. There is not one day that goes by that I don't thank God for them.
You'll be a great mom! Trust your instincts and do not be afraid to ask anyone for help (friends, relatives, sig other, your DR).
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Hi there,
I think (no, I KNOW) that the role hormones play in anxiety and depression is underestimated. I had three children back to back (I had a 3 1/2 year old and a 2 year old when I brought my 3rd newborn baby home from the hospital). I had always struggled with anxiety, but pregnancy & childbirth brought it to a whole new level! I'm not saying this to scare anyone...I'm mentioning it because it is sooooooo normal (and so treatable).
You hear a lot about post partum depression, but not as much about post partum anxiety OR depression and anxiety during pregnancy.
I'm with BeanCounter...don't hesitate to take medication if your doctor thinks it will help. My "post partum" didn't kick in until about five months after my son was born and I fought taking any sort of meds for almost the first entire year of his life. Once I started working with this program, doing the coaching calls, using the hotline (thanks Carolyn!) as needed and taking the meds the way I was supposed to...it honestly took only a few weeks for me to feel completely back to normal.
Go to a psychiatrist vs. a general practitioner. They are so good at coming up with the right dosages and combinations. Understand that the biggest problem with anti-depressents these days is people not being prescribed a high enough dosage. Take the antidepressent and take the xanax with it for a few weeks until you get used to it. Most importantly, don't beat yourself up. I've been on 200 mg of Zoloft for three years now and I've never felt better. I will, most likely, take it for the rest of my life.
I haven't posted for a while, but I'm feeling so blessed to be completely recovered...I just had to get on and share tonight. I used to go to the doctor a few times a week because I had so many different symptoms I was SURE I was dying. I also dropped to 103 lbs (which is very, very thin for me) when I was having a really rough time.
Now, I'm doing great! I've gained all (+) of the weight back, I haven't been to the doctor in almost a year (since my annual physical), I took my kids to Miami last week all by myself AND I'm a Top 10 finalist for Walt-Disney's first-ever CMO position (which is a traveling ambassador for Disney Parks (Anaheim, Orlando, Paris & Hong Kong). Flying used to be my biggest fear and now it doesn't even phase me!
As far as the Disney job, you can check out my video resume at <A HREF="http://www.dreamcmo.com/karrie" TARGET=_blank>www.dreamcmo.com/karrie</A> (and I could use all the support I could get before 3/22)!
I think (no, I KNOW) that the role hormones play in anxiety and depression is underestimated. I had three children back to back (I had a 3 1/2 year old and a 2 year old when I brought my 3rd newborn baby home from the hospital). I had always struggled with anxiety, but pregnancy & childbirth brought it to a whole new level! I'm not saying this to scare anyone...I'm mentioning it because it is sooooooo normal (and so treatable).
You hear a lot about post partum depression, but not as much about post partum anxiety OR depression and anxiety during pregnancy.
I'm with BeanCounter...don't hesitate to take medication if your doctor thinks it will help. My "post partum" didn't kick in until about five months after my son was born and I fought taking any sort of meds for almost the first entire year of his life. Once I started working with this program, doing the coaching calls, using the hotline (thanks Carolyn!) as needed and taking the meds the way I was supposed to...it honestly took only a few weeks for me to feel completely back to normal.
Go to a psychiatrist vs. a general practitioner. They are so good at coming up with the right dosages and combinations. Understand that the biggest problem with anti-depressents these days is people not being prescribed a high enough dosage. Take the antidepressent and take the xanax with it for a few weeks until you get used to it. Most importantly, don't beat yourself up. I've been on 200 mg of Zoloft for three years now and I've never felt better. I will, most likely, take it for the rest of my life.
I haven't posted for a while, but I'm feeling so blessed to be completely recovered...I just had to get on and share tonight. I used to go to the doctor a few times a week because I had so many different symptoms I was SURE I was dying. I also dropped to 103 lbs (which is very, very thin for me) when I was having a really rough time.
Now, I'm doing great! I've gained all (+) of the weight back, I haven't been to the doctor in almost a year (since my annual physical), I took my kids to Miami last week all by myself AND I'm a Top 10 finalist for Walt-Disney's first-ever CMO position (which is a traveling ambassador for Disney Parks (Anaheim, Orlando, Paris & Hong Kong). Flying used to be my biggest fear and now it doesn't even phase me!
As far as the Disney job, you can check out my video resume at <A HREF="http://www.dreamcmo.com/karrie" TARGET=_blank>www.dreamcmo.com/karrie</A> (and I could use all the support I could get before 3/22)!