advice from women please

Pixie_tired · Post by **Pixie_tired** » Wed Jan 16, 2008 1:59 am

Lately I've been having one random weird/scary thought after another. I have finished the program just 3 weeks ago and I am taking a break before going through it again. I can tell since I've stopped the program my old ways of thinking have snuck back in! So I'm just having a little rough time. And besides that I got a letter in the mail that my therapist is retiring end of the month.

I haven't gone a lot in the last year but it's just hard knowing the person who knows everything about me is leaving!

Among other weird thoughts I've had lately, one is driving me crazy right now. I was in meetings all day yesterday and the thought popped in my head with all the men in the room, that there were a lot of p_nis's in the room. I've obviously always known men have them, but I had never stopped and actually THOUGHT about it before like that. Now, the more I try not to think about it, the more it is there and it's driving me nuts. I just want to escape this stuff. Why do our minds even take us there? I just need some calming please, I feel preverted but I'm not trying to be!! i'm so stuck in this and with some of my other recent thoughts. thank you

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jan 16, 2008 2:33 am

Hi Pixie,
These thoughts are nothing more than just thoughts. I have had the exact kind of thoughts, and I have allowed them to scare me for years, until one day I realized that everyone has the same thoughts, we just tend to grab them and hold onto them because they scare us. It is a product of an over stressed over tired mind, thats all! If with every thought you just remind yourself that it is just a thought and refuse to give it any merit to scare you it will fade away. I notice that when I am overly tired or stressed I still get those pop in thoughts but i don't let them bother me anymore!!

Chrystal

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jan 16, 2008 2:36 am

I think everyone has weird thoughts from time to time.I too have thought about my dr retiring someday, he knows me so well and he knows exactly how to treat me.I would hate to have to start all over with another dr.Just realize that your thoughts are yours and everyone has them.Whats normal anyway?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jan 16, 2008 2:39 am

Hey Pixie, Where in WI are you from? I'm from Waupaca, WI. Don't let those weird or scary thoughts get to you. Keep saying thoughts, just thoughts. The more thought you give to why are you thinking that the more nuts you'll feel. There was a time when I kept having the f word run thru my head or seeing letters. It was not me at all. I thought I was going nuts. A good Christian told me not to worry God was judging me or anything. She said eventually it will pass. It did but I know what you mean. You wonder when.

I too lost my Therapist. He moved to TX!! I think of him often. I showed him the program before he left. He said I would do fine without him because I now have the program. You will too. I'm doing it over the 2nd time with a coach now. I think it's sinking in better the 2nd time around. We're here for you as you go thru it again. Don't let those thoughts scare you. You will do fine. Don't look back at that day. Live in the present moment. Feel free to PM me if you want.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jan 16, 2008 3:40 am

wow all of you have been great. thank you for your kind and helpful words! i really do appreciate your responses.

Barb, i am from a small town right by Janesville. nice of you to mention something! i also wanted to ask you about the coaching, how expensive is it and how often do you use it, is it worth it?