HOCD + Performance Anxiety

bevhembree · Post by **bevhembree** » Mon Feb 25, 2008 7:38 am

Wow. I'm lost as to what to say except that my ex husband had sever antipatory anxiety and anxiety performance, some of which I take responsibility for b/c I expected to be intimate more than every few months. Have you thought about seeing a doctor? Beverly

Christian73 · Post by **Christian73** » Mon Feb 25, 2008 4:45 pm

Hi Spencer;

Does your girlfriend know about your OCD? If not, perhaps your fear is that she'll find out. Depending on how close you are and how open minded she is, you might want to open up to her and see if it helps.

You can also think about funny sitcoms that you've seen where guys were afraid of thinking about other guys during sex with a woman. I can't think of any right now but it's a common trope.

I'm a gay guy and I can tell you that I have no desire to sleep with a woman. I'm sure if I was having thoughts like yours I'd be just as upset and unable to perform.

Feel better.

Christian73 · Post by **Christian73** » Tue Feb 26, 2008 1:11 am

Yay! Good for you (and your girlfriend), Spencer.

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