obsessing about obsessing

EddyJ · Post by **EddyJ** » Sat Jan 02, 2010 12:48 pm

Anyone else obsess about obsessing?

I find One day I will obsess about one thing and a couple days later I am not obsessing about the same thing but about something else. I believe it shoes how silly it is.

Carolyn Dickman gave me some amazing advice about this. She said " recognize, fact check. Move on. Don't get stuck in pointless inner dialogue about them"

This has really helped

KennyKazoo · Post by **KennyKazoo** » Sat Jan 02, 2010 3:12 pm

It does. It's so hard to get a fact check from a friend or your girlfriend.

Chris Hulett · Post by **Chris Hulett** » Sat Jan 02, 2010 6:35 pm

Yeah man, I've been dealing with ocd since I was 13, i'm 32 now. I'm learning that the ocd comes from avoiding what you want to do. I'm learning to walk thru fear even if I do see anxiety ahead. It's better to face your fears and conquer them, than it is to avoid your fears and have regret. When you avoid things because of fear of anxiety, you are opening yourelf up to negative thoughts and terrible inner dialogues. I wish you well my friend.

Caraboo17 · Post by **Caraboo17** » Sun Jan 03, 2010 3:53 am

Hi Eddy,

I also obsess about obsessing. I have been diagnosed with OCD in the past, but I don't do compulsions - just have obsessive thoughts. When I'm not obsessing about the thoughts, I'm obsessing about obsessing. It's very confusing and spirals out of control. I just ordered the program and hoping it will help.

EddyJ · Post by **EddyJ** » Mon Jan 04, 2010 12:57 pm

Just now I was obsessing and I decided I would not obsess about obsessing. It gave me clarity. It takes time and patience and exposing yourself to these episodes and fears. But with each day it gets easier because you learn from each experience. For instance If I obsess about hurting someone I love. I use to obsess when I drove that I was going to have panic attacks. I don't want to hurt anyone just like I did not want to have a panic attack.

I am accepting that you don't obsess fearfully about things you want to do. Also Don't obsess about obsessing. Allow yourself to have scary thoughts. It is only anxiety. Fact check. Move on. Like the program says, the more you allow and move on, the easier it is to get rid of the irrational fears because you are conditioning new habits.

I refuse to live each day in fear. Seize the Day!

God Bless and Much Love,

Eddy J

" I feared I was going to lose control. I feel better now. Not because I regained control. But because I realized I never lost it in the first place."

rose_thorn98 · Post by **rose_thorn98** » Tue Jan 12, 2010 12:27 pm

Yes, I obsessed about obsessing and I thought it would never stop! But guess what, it did. It was really about allowing the thought to be there, just like Carolyn Dickman said, and then moving on to something else. Also, when it was going on, it was really my minds way of distracting myself from what i didn't want to deal with in my life. Faced the fear and the obsessing stopped. But I feel for you because I've been in those shoes. I had it bad for a year, but now I don't obsess about obsessing anymore. You will get there too. It just takes alot of practice, so don't give up!

my02angelz · Post by **my02angelz** » Thu Jan 28, 2010 7:51 am

Hi,Im New here and ive just been reading blog after blog for the past 2 days. alot of it makes sense to me and im wondering ,does the obsessing about obsessing ever go away? i feel like im fine one minute and then i find something to obsess about and its never really Happy Uplifting things,there always the worst scenerios.
any advice?

EddyJ · Post by **EddyJ** » Fri Jan 29, 2010 7:32 am

Hey My2angelz,

We can obsess about anything including obsessing. Lesson 10 stop obsessive scary thoughts helps a lot. I find I can obsess about one thing and I will keep obsessing about it until I find something else to obsess about. Sometimes I will feel completely fine and I begin to worry and Obsess about " Why am I not worried or anxious or obsessing?" haha. See the humor in it, but also replacing your negative thinking with truth helps. " I am not going crazy it is just anxiety" Change your focus too. Figure out when you obsess or worry more. Once you change your focus on something else and allow yourself to have these thoughts, you worry less about it. WOrrying about worrying only adds more anxiety. Don't feed it with fear, allow it and change your focus.

my02angelz · Post by **my02angelz** » Sat Jan 30, 2010 6:02 am

Eddy,
ur so right. I say that too. when im not worried i say,Why arent i worrying I have to worry Blah Blah. and there goes the spiral..
I swear i dont even know what im obsesing over half the time. I know its Worry and Fear. Like there has to be something wrong with me Physically for this to be happening. ther must be something wrong w my nervous system or my brain etc. i feel like im looking for a physical reason bec i cant get a grip on that its just from stress,bec i honestly didnt think i was over stressed. but maybe i was. see obsessing again..lol

EddyJ · Post by **EddyJ** » Sat Jan 30, 2010 7:48 am

That is very true my angelz,

I obsessed for 6 months that what was happening to me was something physical and some kind of illness the doctors did not find. My girlfriend gave me the program and i scoffed at the notion that this was happening to me because of stress and anxiety so the program laid by my bed for 2 weeks. Then I went to a doctor for blood work and as ai described what I was dealing with he told me I seemed to have generalized anxiety. Bingo i said! that program sitting by my bed, how about I give it a chance. I did, and I have not looked back since. Best decision I ever made.