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by NinjaFrodo » Sat Oct 30, 2010 7:13 am
My ideas, opinions, feelings and needs matter. I deserve respect and I deserve to stand up for myself. When I'm assertive it doesn't matter how the other person responds because I'm doing it for myself and not for them. No matter what response I get, I will continue to stick to my guns.
Friday;
Thought replacement
1)I'll never be able to say the things I need to, to get my point across.
[Overgeneralization, Minimization]
(examine the evidence)
->I have gotten my point across in the past many times, I have the ability to grow with my assertiveness skills, I am more clear minded when I am calm, I can increase my ability to calm myself down fast, I can write out what I need to say before-hand.
2)I will never get past my need to defend myself.
[Overgeneralization, Minimization]
(double standard)
->I'm already doing a great job as it is with changing this. I work on it on a daily basis, I've been assertive many times and the more I use the assertiveness skills the more secure I will become and the more I will ingrain in my head why defensiveness doesn't work.
3)I should be relaxing myself more.
[should]
(acceptance-semantic)
->I have fallen behind on that goal of relaxation and it would be more beneficial to get back into it because it'll reduce time spent in an anxious/panicky state and I will be able to access more of my brain as well.
4)I can't get a job, I can't handle the anxiety.
[All-Or-Nothing, Minimization]
(Double standard)
->I've done very well with my skills and have handled tough situations regardless of feeling anxious and in fact I've handled them even better lately than I did when I was working full-time at Tim Hortons. I can do it and its ok to let people know that I do feel anxious if it gets too overwhelming for me. People will be there to help me if I need it.
5)There's too much anxiety, I can't handle the bewilderment.
[Magnification, minimization, all-or-nothing]
(examine the evidence)
->I endure it everyday so I handle it on a daily basis, I socialize even with the social anxiety, I know its just a body symptom and not a sign I'm going crazy, I've dealt with worse anxiety and got through it, I have skills to reduce the anxiety.
MIke
