what to do with fear

rocknroll · Post by **rocknroll** » Tue Jan 01, 2008 8:18 pm

Hi guys and gals. I actually bought the tapes for anxiety, etc back in 2003, started using them for a while, actually Im much better now than I was..although Im still dealing with some issues that are boggling me. I in this past year have fallen in love with someone, a close friend of my best friend. He is wonderful. We have been talking for over a year, and we keep getting closer and closer. I have issues about opening up and with fear. I fear constantly. I love him deeply, and he is constantly reassuring me he loves me ..the bad and the good. I can't let go of this fear that im not perfect enough, no matter how many times he tells me how gorgeous I am, I fear im ugly, that he will be disgusted.I have suffered from anxiety for a while, and because of that have not driven a car since last year, I am working soon on getting my licence. I fear that he will look at all these things about me and ..well...not feel the same way about me. Why can't I be as open as him..as fearless and as sure about myself ...the way he's sure about me?? What is wrong with me?? I don't see in me what he sees in me, and im afraid he thinks im so great that he will be dissapointed in the long run. What can I do?? He deserves someone great, He is truly a good man, and I want to be good.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jan 02, 2008 2:26 am

It sounds like he truly loves you and supports you. Nobody is perfect and we all have various issues. Yours just happens to be with some anxiety issues. But it sounds like you are trying to overcome your limitations and that is a positive. Don't give into your fears and accept the facts- he is there for you & cares for you. I'm sure he wants to do everything he can to help you.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jan 02, 2008 2:28 am

Hey there,
I just wanted to encourage you to relax and enjoy the beauty of your inner-self. What ever the looks, remind yourself you are a wonderful human being worth of happiness and love and that's what the people around sees in you. Please be kind to yourself and give yourself credit for what you have accomplished. Remember positive self talking, making a list of your attributes and success and reach for the gold!

Happy journey!
Ivonne

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Jan 06, 2008 2:34 pm

i appreciate your responses very much. Its touogh, though I will try to remember your words.Thank you!