Still Angry
So yesterday I got into a fight with my boyfriend over some small and little. I was mad that he was out with friends and had not called me from 4 to Midnight, even though he said he would. He said sorry already, but I cannot let go of my angry feelings. It just keeps replaying in my head and I keep becoming angry once more. How do I let go? I know he said sorry, but I can't help but feel like it was not good enough. It's not like I haven't forgotten to call him before. I feel like what he says isn't coming his heart and that's why I am still angry. Kinda silly right? I know I need to let go. Any pointers? Thanks
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Yes. Session Four has all the information you need to get a handle on this today, and for all future similar upsets. Your anger, as you define it, is about your expectations. And, the homework assignments actually teach you the skills, so you will always have the tool box for this next time it happens. Good stuff in Session Four.
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Krtasch1,
Jealousy is a sign of insecurity. If you get upset about little things, such as an oversight like this, I can tell you that if you continue you wont have to worry about his return at midnight; he may not return at all.
You can either choose to hang out with him and his friends, but give him his space or have a rationale discussion about things such as this. Something like putting off any thing to say until the next day, is a definite plus, and mention something like: "I was worried that something may have happened to you when I didn't hear from you..." or "...my feelings were really hurt when you did or said such and such..."
The important thing is to stop and think about what you are going to say, and how it may be interpreted. If you appear too rattled it spells jealousy, if you are too aloof it appears you are indifferent. That's why it is important to put things off so that you don't let your emotions dominate rationale thought.
Oh, life can be such a drama. Especially when you are young. I am kind of glad to be past all this. Now, I am just a fat and happy broken down old man.
Jealousy is a sign of insecurity. If you get upset about little things, such as an oversight like this, I can tell you that if you continue you wont have to worry about his return at midnight; he may not return at all.
You can either choose to hang out with him and his friends, but give him his space or have a rationale discussion about things such as this. Something like putting off any thing to say until the next day, is a definite plus, and mention something like: "I was worried that something may have happened to you when I didn't hear from you..." or "...my feelings were really hurt when you did or said such and such..."
The important thing is to stop and think about what you are going to say, and how it may be interpreted. If you appear too rattled it spells jealousy, if you are too aloof it appears you are indifferent. That's why it is important to put things off so that you don't let your emotions dominate rationale thought.
Oh, life can be such a drama. Especially when you are young. I am kind of glad to be past all this. Now, I am just a fat and happy broken down old man.