Dr. Jekyll and Ms. Hyde

[Gisette]

Does anyone else have trouble anger-wise with the 20-strikes-and-you-DIE!!! rule?

I have this... thing... where sometimes I don't actually get angry. Over and over and over, like 20 times... and then, BAM! accounts due in full, with interest, on all 20 previous infractions. And I'm forest-fire raging mad about the lot of it.

I suspect this comes off as kinda schizophrenic to the party on the receiving end.

Um, maybe I could be more assertive about each thing that seems irritating. But I really am not aware of being irritated. Until the last straw.

Any ideas?

[Guest]

I am very similar... I end up exploding. Its not a pretty sight! When I really look back now, I do see that if there is an issue I think about it a lot and analyze repeatedly... I'm trying to use the 24hour trick to stop and review what I am feeling and try to put myself in the other persons shoes and decide how to react more productively

Hope hope you are well. V.

[Guest]

Repeated offences against my good mood that I worked hard to achieve will eventually wither away and be left as a stain on the ground of defeat usually for both parties. I lose too.
I lose because I let them do this to me, and the person that wanted to get on my last nerve won also. Its a lose lose in the end. Its the little things that build to the point of a cosmic event of the mind that will bewilder any incoming humans or objects that are within holding grasp. Like my computer for the last 2 days....having trouble with spam/and hackers...had to change everything and eliminate lots of stuff......because of an idiot of undeterminable mental capacity decided to get a neuronal storm and aggravate people.
I just shut my brain off at that moment, I have to but I think once in awhile you have to let steam off, I feel its not healthy keeping that negativity in but finding a great outlet to unleash it on....punching bag, treadmill, something physically satisfying in a calm way. creamcheesepuff