Very Angry for nothing!

Moontale · Post by **Moontale** » Wed Dec 26, 2007 10:06 pm

I am in session 5 still but I wanted to vent out my silly anger.......well I have an offer to come back to a really good job I had before wich I actually quit in the past because of my social phobia and panic attacks. I couln't deal with my coworkers at the time and I screwed up, but my boss called me again after a year and a half and offered it again. I did decide to take it because I like the job and because I want to confront my fears of social phobia, but the thing is that I've been having an anticipatory anxiety about it, really bad, So, I decided to take a little trip to my country to relax and come back clear minded before I start, I planned it and I was just waiting to get the airpline tickets. Well, for some reasons I won't be able to go on the trip now and I became frustrated and ANGRY and my anticipatory anxiety is getting stonger, I don't want to screwed up the job again. I am trying to get it out of my mind but is hard.....any suggestions

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Dec 26, 2007 10:27 pm

When you say you screwed up, was it a big deal or was it you being critical of yourself? Just wondering. If your boss wants you back things must be OK between you and him/her. Maybe you just need a fresh start. Give yourself a break and just start with a clean slate. Jody

Gman5256 · Post by **Gman5256** » Thu Dec 27, 2007 2:14 am

Hi Moontale,

I too suffer an awful lot with anticipatory anxiety when confronting my fearful situations. It is torture actually, much more so than doing the actual scary thing I am fearing.

What I am finding that helps is to allow myself to STOP all WHAT IF's for 5 minutes at at time, then slowly increase. If 5 is too much at first, I'd do it for 1min etc. Distract yourself, and get busy. It is like a muscle that needs to be developed and the more you use it, the easier it gets.

I'm not perfect at it, but...I can tell you that I am MUCH better at it than before. I tell myself that I will ntt worry about it till the time comes, and I PUSH it out of my head. It comes back but each time I PUSH it, I feel more and more in control. Then I tell myself that I trust myself and that I will be able to cope and handle whatever gets thrown your way but I refuse to worry about something that isn't here yet.

Be your own best friend, be gentle and kind with yourself. It isn't easy but it is worth it.

Blessings,
Danielle

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Dec 27, 2007 2:19 am

I have a whole weekoff and I'm finding ways to enjoy being myself and not get caught up in the "working field" of my mind. I'm learning to love myself unconditionally with out having anger directed toward myself and /or my performance. It's a precious moment waster. I pray for wisdom and strenght and a cleansing of inner forgiveness of myself to not be so demanding of myself and to be less affected of the way others view me. Slowly, I am getting better and I am proud of myself for hanging in there anyway to love even when I feel like somebody less than myself . I love me and I'm proud of me in learning to become my own parachute. I have tremendous pressures at work but I'm leaving them there so I can enjoy my vacation with peace and a calm body, Amen!<IMG SRC="<A HREF="http://img295.imageshack.us/my.php?image=mewe7.png" TARGET=_blank>[img]http://img295.imageshack.us/img295/5043 ... ng">%20</A>[/img]

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Dec 27, 2007 8:56 pm

Thank You guys!!! yes I kind of screwed up over-reacting a lot to criticism but at the time I remember my boss saying that everybody like me , it was more a couple of coworkers that didn't like that I had a good position and I was doing good on it, so when the time came and they figured out something they could criticaze me about my job they took the oportunity and viciously dwell on it. I was sensitive about it and they got me from there because I couldn't drop it after that. I am just afraid that I am going to over react again and I won't be able to deal with criticism if the situation comes......But I am definitely going to work on distracting myself until I start the job, step by step right?

and maybe this time with a couple of weeks in the program I will be able to handle it :0).... I actually glad that session 6 and 7 are next for me...........Thank You so much, you don't have any idea how good does it feel to be able to have people that understand and support you on your challenges!!! God Bless you!!
Liz

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Dec 28, 2007 10:16 am

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I am working on inward anger. I love my self unconditionally. When I get these inner anger feelings I try to remind myself that I'm going to speak kind friendly encouraging thoughts to myself to make me feel better regardless

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