Irritated Too Much

irisheyes · Post by **irisheyes** » Sat Feb 02, 2008 3:24 pm

Hi -
It's funny how so often when we start a new session, I get an opportunity to practice it in real life. The session on anger has really been eye-opening for me and has shown me I've harbored more anger than I ever realized, probably going back to childhood. I'm not sure how to process it all.
I also notice that I can be easily irritated and then have a hard time "turning it off." In fact, during the lesson on negative thinking, I discovered that, embassassingly, the vast majority of my negative thoughts were about others and not myself! I beat myself up plenty, but was shocked at how much time I waste being irritated with others or dwelling on people who get on my nerves. It's very hard to shut off the thoughts. I am convinced my anger/irritation is doing me physical harm as I have lots of headaches and have had some blood pressure concerns recently despite an otherwise healthy lifestyle. I walk around with my heart beating too hard and that "fight or flight" feeling much too much of the time and am only becoming aware of it since I started the program. Can anybody relate to this, and how do you keep those feelings of irritation at bay? I'm struggling to get the log out of my own eye before I worry about the speck in someone else's. Any thoughts?

aleisa123 · Post by **aleisa123** » Sat Feb 23, 2008 11:23 am

I can totally relate to the whole irritability thing. I noticed that so many things and people bug me. As far as any suggestions or advice, I'm at a loss. I'm wondering if it may be a defense mechansim, kinda that whole keeping people at bey thing. At least for me. I've just been trying to be more aware of it and stop it in its tracks. Besides, I can't control other people, and how do I know that other people aren't walking around thinking about how irritating I am? Well, I hope this helps, any other suggestions??

Phillip Hudson · Post by **Phillip Hudson** » Mon Mar 10, 2008 4:21 am

Being raised in A Christian Household, I never heard my Mom and Step-Dad holler or scream at each other or use profanity at any time from my age of 7 years till I left home at the age of 20.

This sort of behasvior by my "spouse" is what my main source of Irration,Anger and Stress and Depressiom originates from.