finishing week 3 needing advice or encouragement???
I am finishing up week 3 and really do not feel I am getting anything out of this program. Im exercising, no caffeine, journaling, but I still feel the same. I carry the notebook with me but can't stop every time I get a negative thought, so I write when I can but not all day long. It just seems that my only negative thoughts are that I feel like this, not im fat, ugly, can't do things right, just that I feel detached and helpless. I want so bad to get some relief, but don't know if maybe I will be like this forever. Please help!
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Good for stopping the caffeine, good for exercising, and good for journaling when you can. Don't forget to cut back on sugar. Too much sugar gets me sliding backward in a hurry. What you just described is about as classic a picture of depression as one could give without painting it. Your detachment and feelings of helplessness are the leftovers. These are so often all we feel is left when depression has ravaged through our life. I am so sorry the program doesn't seem to be helping. I know you want relief. I bet you want relief right now, this very moment. I would like to suggest you do stay with the program. But might I also ask if you visited your doctor? Did you get a full physical along with blood chemistry profile? I don't know if something else is holding you back which could be picked up by a thorough exam. Perhaps it really is just the heaviness of depression. When I completed this program about seven months ago, I could have written a book about all the crisis I endured while working through the program. My gosh, it was so difficult. People died, pets died, a relationship failed, I actually lost most of my retirement account when the market crashed, and life went on. I never gave up. The worst things got the harder I worked on this. I did supplement the program with a couple of other books and you might find them in your library and check them out. I bought them, and have referenced them many times, too. The information is all overlapping, and sometimes when something seems hard to comprehend from one source, your light bulbs will switch to bright when you read it somewhere else. Those books are Unstuck by James Gordon, MD; and Change Your Brain, Change Your Life by Daniel Amen, MD. Now for the good news about this program: the step by step journey is what makes this all come together. The two referenced books simply help you better understand why this program does work. You may have to go through it, and then redo it. I don't know how severe your depression is, but I do know you want to get better, and you can. Help is here. You can do this. You may simply need to supplement your reading until the theories behind this journey make sense, like a loud clap of thunder that you couldn't hear before. Our minds can be stubborn, and it sounds like you do have a stubborn mind. But you are at the helm, and you can steer this ship. I wish you the best. I really do.
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I have a very unsupported and negative husband.
I can't work and have no money to speak of and no family that can take me in, so can't leave him right now. I am barely functional, just started being able to go the grocery store, library, walgreens again and get out and walk every day but have lots of social anxiety. Weekends are not fun. He has been a poop all weekend because I wouldn't walk as far as he wanted to Friday night. He has listened to the partners CD and read the part of the book for partners and still he acts like a 2 y/o. I am trying not to expect much from him, but it is so hard to be trying to get better when I have to live in a house with this really negative, depressed and angry person. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!
I can't work and have no money to speak of and no family that can take me in, so can't leave him right now. I am barely functional, just started being able to go the grocery store, library, walgreens again and get out and walk every day but have lots of social anxiety. Weekends are not fun. He has been a poop all weekend because I wouldn't walk as far as he wanted to Friday night. He has listened to the partners CD and read the part of the book for partners and still he acts like a 2 y/o. I am trying not to expect much from him, but it is so hard to be trying to get better when I have to live in a house with this really negative, depressed and angry person. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!
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