Hit with a brick today

cream cheese · Post by **cream cheese** » Sat Mar 27, 2010 4:36 pm

Can say I was doing very well until today....always happens to me...feeling good than SOMEONE destroys it. Thought I was moving to Virginia in a house my brother owned. (he lives next door) He said...The house I am in now(In NJ) has to sell before I move down there by him.
Its a long history here but my brother has been tremendously upsetting me with his manipulation of my life since HE OWNS THE HOUSE I am in now. I have to revamp all my hopes and go back to my original plan. I try to trust him cause HES MY BROTHER....is anyone else in a manipulative relationship with a close family member that just keeps controlling You? I attempted to be more assertive but he never really answered my questions and I dont pursue it like I should because he has severe problems with his stomach so I dont want him to get sick. creamcheese

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Mar 27, 2010 4:47 pm

Hi Cream Cheese

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Just a thought, maybe your brother doesn't trust anyone else to live in the house, which you are now living in, but you...Maybe, that is why he would like to sell it first

I am soooo sorry this has placed your plans on hold for the time being and I do pray that home sells very fast, so you can move to Va....

I am sure you are very frustrated and upset, since you had your hopes up to move very soon and it probably feels like your dreams have crashed down around you!!!

It is soooo difficult being patient, but it looks like you have no choice in this matter, but to be patient...

I pray that house sells very soon, my dear friend!!! In the meantime, I pray that you try your "darnest" to live in your precious, present moments and to make the most of them!!!

Have a wonderful night's rest knowing God has everything under control and it all works out for the best in the end!!!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Mar 27, 2010 5:03 pm

I just wanted to let you know that I like your attitude. Can't wait till I can say the same about my attitude!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Mar 27, 2010 5:13 pm

Ms. T Bones....Hi thanks for the response.
Its a long story here, my brother has never come through for me. I gave him chances and trusted him. This is the last straw. Unfortunately this house is his now and I am in it. ( It is my childhood home, my parents home) I have tremendous memories here which make it very tough. He told me that his friend was moving out of his other house in May or June so He said " Well, the house is here if you need to come down!!" Now....I took that as you are welcome here to move in after his friend moves out which he told me was may or june. Now he changes his tune....I cant trust him anymore...he has reneged on promises he has made to me in the past not once but 3 times...now this is the 4th!!!! I have to release him and this situation from my life and just up and leave here and go to my original state (Vermont) where I wanted to go. I gave him chances and he always kicks me in the teeth.
He had also offered me money in years past which he decided not to give me for a home...with the understanding I would pay him back AFTER I settled in. He reneged....and this is AFTER I had seen a nice home I was going to buy in Vermont Twice.....I grilled those poor old people about their beautiful log home and had told my brother this was it.....he decided to NOT give me the money....said he was losing the interest. I have a good relationship with him.....but when it comes down to the Almighty dollar something happens to him in his brain..it frustrates me so. I will pray for myself at this time for Gods help and reassurance.....Its just that I feel like I am going around and around in circles.....God really knows how to spin dry you at times to make sure you really know what you want to do in your life...lol thanks...I will lift myself up as I always do...but its good to know you are there......God Bless you....creamcheese...Sandra

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Mar 27, 2010 5:20 pm

Hey TerriAce.......Well....I am presently READJUSTING my present attitude because of family member who put a monkey wrench into moving plans.....but.....I will get back up there....I have to redirect my thoughts to forget about that negative moment.....The Tapes really help me out. I was doing VERY WELL and funny but true I was waiting for something BAD to happen to ruin it all and WALA....here it is!!! I will get through it......I will not go down defeated......creamcheese.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Mar 27, 2010 5:36 pm

Hey Creamcheese,
Maybe you would be much happier in Vermont!!! One just never knows why these things happens, but I am sure it all work itself out the way it was meant to...

I am soooo sorry that I couldn't be of any further help to you!!! I really don't have the answers, but God does my dear friend!!!

Have a great night's rest...Cloie

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Mar 27, 2010 6:04 pm

Cloie....Yes....I always think God has a new road for me.....just wish I had a better GPS!!!
It appears it came full circle for some strange reason...Vermont is beautiful.....I have been looking for housing there for 7 years....very tough when you want a home rental and have 4 cats!!!! Not an easy state to get something when you have 6 rooms of furniture!!! And nonsense...you are so very helpful. God will surely reward you for helping me out here!!! thank you so very much.....Sandra creamcheese