the other day u heard my friends gossiping about me. i sat there on the jungle gym and heard them. then they noticed me and acted like nothing happened. then my best friend came up and i asked " why were you gossiping about me" and she said "here ill explain everything" or something and after she took me on the swings while the others went to the willow tree. i cryed and she didnt comfort me she didnt hug me like id hugged her when she was down and i comforted her. and then i went home and wrote a poem about how i was feeling and posted it on facebook. and two of the people mailed me one was sorry and the other was mean.
thanks for being here guys
god bless
miserable
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Unfortunately gossip is a part of life. Doesn't mean it's okay but what it does mean is that we have to take it with a grain of salt (unless it's really bad - then you take it to the authorities f you feel you must)...but usually it's just stupid stuff and you need to be able to brush it off and not let if bother you.
Also remembering that "life isn't fair" does help - never compare the way you treat people with how they treat you. Always do onto others as you would like them to do to you, but don't always expect people to return the favor.
This is a huge part of recovery here. Lower your expectations, don't think that life is always fair, don't rely on other people to set your day up.
We have to learn to be our own best friends - you sound young, this kind of thing will happen throughout your life - things never get better, you just learn how to deal with them in a different way.
Also remembering that "life isn't fair" does help - never compare the way you treat people with how they treat you. Always do onto others as you would like them to do to you, but don't always expect people to return the favor.
This is a huge part of recovery here. Lower your expectations, don't think that life is always fair, don't rely on other people to set your day up.
We have to learn to be our own best friends - you sound young, this kind of thing will happen throughout your life - things never get better, you just learn how to deal with them in a different way.
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Yes, so very true!! This saves us from so many unnecessary negative thoughts and negative self-talk!!Also remembering that "life isn't fair" does help - never compare the way you treat people with how they treat you. Always do onto others as you would like them to do to you, but don't always expect people to return the favor.
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i know what you mean. i need too start taking the high road and stop thinking for everyone else,the fantasies of what people might be thinking of me have been controlling my life for over 2 years now.today is day 5 of the program for me,and this forum has really helped, just getting it out of me, on the computer, journal, or opening up to my wife helps, i dont do that ever. thanks.
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Meag,
My father used to say, "Consider the source." How happy can someone be with themselves if they treat you badly? They take their unhappiness out on you. There may come a day when you feel sorry for them because they are obviously mean and miserable. And friends don't treat you that way.
Robert,
I think it's harder for men in this society because you're not supposed to be afraid or cry or have feelings and you're especially not supposed to talk about it if you do. (In short, you're not supposed to be human.)
If you want to know what someone is thinking, ask them! You'll probably be surprised that it's nothing like you assumed. I just read on someone's post that we are our own worst enemies. Ain't that the truth?
Les
My father used to say, "Consider the source." How happy can someone be with themselves if they treat you badly? They take their unhappiness out on you. There may come a day when you feel sorry for them because they are obviously mean and miserable. And friends don't treat you that way.
Robert,
I think it's harder for men in this society because you're not supposed to be afraid or cry or have feelings and you're especially not supposed to talk about it if you do. (In short, you're not supposed to be human.)
If you want to know what someone is thinking, ask them! You'll probably be surprised that it's nothing like you assumed. I just read on someone's post that we are our own worst enemies. Ain't that the truth?
Les