Depressed and Anxious lately--
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sensitivebunny
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I've been having a difficult time lately--My apartment was burgularized in May and I've still not completely recovered--I go between having anxiety about being in the house alone to being depressed over everything! I know I'm driving my husband nuts and I am in therapy..It does help but when I leave there the feelings come back and I'm finding it hard to cope..I don't have a lot of friends and my family does not live close by so I'm leaning on my husband a lot which is causing a strain..Any thoughts/suggestions on how I can move forward would be appreciated..I should also add that my neighborhood is a good one but is changing..We are trying to buy a house and haven't found anything lately which is also adding to the stress..
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Sensitivebunny,
I understand what you must be going through. I would feel unsafe or anxious about being alone too, if my apartment had been broken into. To have your personal space invaded like that must mess with your mind. Thankfully, I have never had an experience like yours, but I do have anxiety and I do know what it is like to not want to be alone sometimes. Your thoughts race and your heart pounds and you feel like you are never going to calm down.
I also understand what it is like to feel like you are driving your significant other crazy. Often times, I think my boyfriend wants to strangle me over my anxious thoughts and feelings. I know how difficult it can be for the other person in the relationship to deal with the anxieties and depression.
About your experience with therapy, I can sympathize with that as well. I am not longer in therapy, but when I was I would leave the office feeling empowered and almost "high" from discussing my problems and feeling like I left the therapy session with a new outlook. Then, when something happened that triggered my anxiety or made me depressed, I never felt like I had the coping skills to handle the situation. Combatting Stress and Depression Program helped me with this. I fell off the wagon with the program the first time around, but am starting it again and am going to try to stick with it this time. If you have not ever tried this program, I would recommend it to you. There is hope for overcoming anxiety and depression, you just have to have the tools to do so.
My best advice to you would be to not spend too much time at home alone, find things to do to occupy yourself, whether it is by yourself or with your husband. If you do find yourself at home, get in touch with your scary thoughts and realize that they are NOT happening to you right then, so why worry about them? Divert your worries to positive things. Deep breathing exercises really do help as well. When you feel overwhelmed and none of the above is working, talk to someone - your husband, a close friend, family member, etc. Even if they do not live near you and sometimes you feel isolated, there is always someone you can talk to. If you don't have that outlet, there is always, always, always someone on this forum that will listen and sympathize with you. I promise. I'll help in any way I can as well. Together we can get through this. Keep your chin up, girl! Don't let it get you down.
I understand what you must be going through. I would feel unsafe or anxious about being alone too, if my apartment had been broken into. To have your personal space invaded like that must mess with your mind. Thankfully, I have never had an experience like yours, but I do have anxiety and I do know what it is like to not want to be alone sometimes. Your thoughts race and your heart pounds and you feel like you are never going to calm down.
I also understand what it is like to feel like you are driving your significant other crazy. Often times, I think my boyfriend wants to strangle me over my anxious thoughts and feelings. I know how difficult it can be for the other person in the relationship to deal with the anxieties and depression.
About your experience with therapy, I can sympathize with that as well. I am not longer in therapy, but when I was I would leave the office feeling empowered and almost "high" from discussing my problems and feeling like I left the therapy session with a new outlook. Then, when something happened that triggered my anxiety or made me depressed, I never felt like I had the coping skills to handle the situation. Combatting Stress and Depression Program helped me with this. I fell off the wagon with the program the first time around, but am starting it again and am going to try to stick with it this time. If you have not ever tried this program, I would recommend it to you. There is hope for overcoming anxiety and depression, you just have to have the tools to do so.
My best advice to you would be to not spend too much time at home alone, find things to do to occupy yourself, whether it is by yourself or with your husband. If you do find yourself at home, get in touch with your scary thoughts and realize that they are NOT happening to you right then, so why worry about them? Divert your worries to positive things. Deep breathing exercises really do help as well. When you feel overwhelmed and none of the above is working, talk to someone - your husband, a close friend, family member, etc. Even if they do not live near you and sometimes you feel isolated, there is always someone you can talk to. If you don't have that outlet, there is always, always, always someone on this forum that will listen and sympathize with you. I promise. I'll help in any way I can as well. Together we can get through this. Keep your chin up, girl! Don't let it get you down.