Hating the drama...

jadee · Post by **jadee** » Wed Apr 15, 2009 11:00 am

Its been quite a while since I've posted anything, everything was going well for me until recently. A couple weeks ago, my boyfriend of seven years and I ended our relationship. We got into a huge argument over a stupid misunderstanding, and that was it. I had to move me and my dog to my mothers house and things haven't been going well at all. Im just not used to being back at my mothers, and its hard going from living on your own with your own rules and whatnot, to having to respect someone elses.

Well I thought I was doing well... but then I found out some more information from a friend of mine saying that last week my ex was trying to get my sister to sleep with him. I was devastated. She wasnt the one who told me, and I dont know how credible my informer is, but I still talked to my ex and asked him about it. He completely denied anything. All that he said was that he offered her the spare bedroom in the house, and that she could have been drunk and misunderstood him. I just dont know what to believe. I also found out from the same person (who is pretty much in love with my sister)that my sister has been sleeping with one of my friends?! She is 6 years younger than my friends and I.

This brings me to my final issue... I thought I was being nice by inviting my sister to a couple gatherings, shes mature for her age (or so I thought) and I figured it would be cool to have her around. It started out as me inviting her out, but now she has no problem in calling my friends, asking them to pick her up, asking them to buy her stuff... etc... So basically now she calls them asking to hang out without me around.. and invites me to come and hang out with me and MY friends?! Sorry if this is long and full of information that none of you care to hear... But obviously its becoming a problem, and is causing me to be anxious all the time and I needed to vent before figuring out what I am going to do about this situation. I wish this was all the drama in my life right now... but ill save the rest for another post.

CG822 · Post by **CG822** » Wed Apr 15, 2009 4:23 pm

I think you really need to sit your sister down and talk to her. She has to respect you and be honest. Tell her everything u just said. If she is an adult she will respect u and give u honest answers. I hope you work it all out!!! Relationships are hard. I know all too well!

Franca.Canada · Post by **Franca.Canada** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 1:35 am

You can't dictate who your sister sleeps with or who she's friends with - those are HER decisions. And why can't she be friends with your friends if they all want to be friends? You don't OWN people.

What's the real issue here? Why does your sister make you feel so insecure?

About your boyfriend, if he really is asking your sister, or anyone, to sleep with him, then you need to get rid of him. It's as simple as that. There must be a reason why you're in a relationship where you don't trust or believe him. Why is that? And if you have legitimate reason to not trust him, then what are you doing with him?

We create the majority of all the "drama" in our lives because we refuse to use common sense.

We can't control or change ANYONE. The only person we can control and change is ourself.

jadee · Post by **jadee** » Thu Apr 16, 2009 6:01 am

I guess I didnt mention that my sister is 16 years young. And maybe it disturbs me that shes sleeping with one of my 23 or 24 year old friends?!