when does it stop
I have not recieved my kit yet, but I signed up anyways.I have been through alot the past four years.I have lost six famliy members,a divorce thats not final, three jobs and a surgery that went very bad when I tell you it will be very hard to believe. I will briefly try to tell the whole story in a quick and brief story.I lost my sister first { Jan }.and my mother six months {Sept. } later that was in 2004, the following year I lost both of my in-laws four months apart that was 2005. I went to Russia to adopt my daughter in 2006 and when my wife and I returned she asked me to switch jobs to help her so she would not have to take so much time off from work, so I did and she left five weeks. The new job I started I was so depressed I just could not get my work done do to the fact that my son and daughter were not there with me,I tryed to explain that I would be ok I just needed a little time to process all that has happened and my supervisor did not agree so I was let go.I started a new job where I was doing fine and really started to feel like myself and things started to get better.I felt a pain in my leg and went to the doctor he told me I needed a hip replacement and not only did I need one replaced but he recommended both, I told the owner that I worked for who was ok with it and he know it would be for approx. six weeks, he told me I could work from homeso it would be no problem. I had the surgery done but after the surgery I was brought up from recovery and placed on my bed. This was on a Tuesday and I woke up Wed. morning and complained about my behind hurting the nurse told me to hit the button for pain, I did so and woke uo eight hours later.I then complained about the same pain in my behind and was told to press the button again as the nurse said "you just had both of your hips replaced it going to hurt" so I did so again and woke up the next day .This time the PT doctor and attendents were there and told me not to prees the button until they got me out of bed.When they picked me up the then relized that they did not have a reg. matteress or a air matteress under me just a hard metal rod in the middle of my behind. Which caused a huge bed sore and required six different surgeries and almost seven hundred stiches. This was from Decemember to this June, and I had lost my Father in Dec. and my Grand father in April on {my mothers birhday} in which I was not able to walk for eight weeks and had to lay on my stomach or sides.I was not aloud to attend the funerals of either of them.my last memory from my father was him telling me he had cancer and he won't last long.That was by phone.Now I have called m last employer to tell him I could come back full time and he told me my job was filled by him, because of ther housing market he had to down size the company and keep the first hires regardless of what they did.So I have no job, no parents or do I have a behind I can sit on more than two hours at a time or can I stand for more than two hours at a time. With no college or money in my account.And my insurance was just cancelled.
It sure does seem like you've been through a lot. From reading your post it seems like that you are a very strong person. I am only in the 2 week of the program but have seen a lot of positive changes in my life. I think that the program will help you, and that hopefully you'll find that these Forums help as well. Good luck, and just remember no matter what, that you are not alone. 
Wow you sure have been through a lot. I'm sorry for the lose of your family members. It takes a very strong person to handle what you have and still make it through. Most people could not endure what you have. I think the program will def. help you. This site is also very supportive and encouraging. Good luck with everything.
Hey Eagle, definitely some tough times....regarding your surgery, I would seriously look into the fact that you may have a lawsuit pending. There's got to be a ton a lawyers who would jump all over that case without any money down, and you deserve some compensation!
The family situation is tough...what the program teaches is you to do though, is look at each and any situation and deal with them. Obviously in the case of your family you need to greive, to be sad, and allow yourself time for this and be ok with that...but eventually you must come to terms with the fact that you must move on for you, and it's very likely that you're family would all want that for you.
You'll learn about the fact that you deserve a great life, and are just as entitled as anyone else. You'll learn how to deal with difficult situations, and you'll learn not to worry about things you cannot control cause that's wasted time and energy and you could be using it for something productive.
I have struggled with chronic back pain and depression since I was 15, about 22 yrs now. I've sat on the couch, taken meds, but this program empowers you to deal with the life; the good and the bad.
Allow yourself the go through the program fully. In my case, I had been living life the same and doing the same thing...the worst that could happen is my life could improve! I still deal with issues, and come to the forum for support, but it will take time. A key point Lucinda makes is that we didn't get here over night, so we can't expect to be fixed over night.
The family situation is tough...what the program teaches is you to do though, is look at each and any situation and deal with them. Obviously in the case of your family you need to greive, to be sad, and allow yourself time for this and be ok with that...but eventually you must come to terms with the fact that you must move on for you, and it's very likely that you're family would all want that for you.
You'll learn about the fact that you deserve a great life, and are just as entitled as anyone else. You'll learn how to deal with difficult situations, and you'll learn not to worry about things you cannot control cause that's wasted time and energy and you could be using it for something productive.
I have struggled with chronic back pain and depression since I was 15, about 22 yrs now. I've sat on the couch, taken meds, but this program empowers you to deal with the life; the good and the bad.
Allow yourself the go through the program fully. In my case, I had been living life the same and doing the same thing...the worst that could happen is my life could improve! I still deal with issues, and come to the forum for support, but it will take time. A key point Lucinda makes is that we didn't get here over night, so we can't expect to be fixed over night.
I am sorry for your losses. So many in such a short time and you have not really had time to heal and grieve yet. This program will help you with the healing. You will also learn some skills to get on your feet. Obviously you still have hope and you are very resilient. Your persistence to keep going in the face of so much sadness proves how much courage you have.
There are alot of very practical skills that you will be able to put into practice immediately. Specifically, how to begin believing you are worth more. Also how to be assertive and how to begin building a support network. You need this. Also I agree you might want to check into a lawyer for the "gross negligence" and "pain and suffering" you experienced getting the decubitus (bedsore). It was totally preventable.
Good luck.
Mitzy
There are alot of very practical skills that you will be able to put into practice immediately. Specifically, how to begin believing you are worth more. Also how to be assertive and how to begin building a support network. You need this. Also I agree you might want to check into a lawyer for the "gross negligence" and "pain and suffering" you experienced getting the decubitus (bedsore). It was totally preventable.
Good luck.
Mitzy