going backward
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shannen1234
- Posts: 6
- Joined: Wed Apr 02, 2008 1:05 am
I finished the program a while ago and now I feel like I am right back where I started. School has been really stressful this semester and I am suppose to graduate this semester and I may not because I can't keep it together. I am suppose to be finishing a paper right now and I just can't look at it anymore. I am doing really bad in this class and just can't seem to make myself do better. I would be doing better if I could get up for school in the morning but I stay up too late and then I can't get up in the morning. I know what I am doing is wrong but I just keep doing it. I have started the program again I am on session 3 now but I need help now I am letting everything fall apart and I feel paralyzed to do anything about it.
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custodialjunky
- Posts: 7
- Joined: Thu Oct 23, 2008 11:16 am
- Location: Wasaga Beach, Ontario, Canada
Hi Shannen12234,
School can do that to you. It's one of the things that started my spiral last fall. I work full time for a university but am finishing off a second degree. I had way too much on the go and was over the top stressed out. Funny thing is that I'm the one who is always giving advice to the students on how to handle their work and stress levels but this time it got the best of me. However, I'm starting to feel much better. I know what you are thinking about school. What if I fail? I won't graduate, my life will be over. Been there. Ask yourself this...so what if you fail a course? Seriously, so what? You take the course again and graduate later. One of things that really got to me was that I wanted to raise my GPA to what I thought was a respectable level. Sure you want to do well but not at the expense of your well being. I'm now looking at it this way. I'm going to do the work as best I can but I'm not going to obsess over it any longer. What happens, happens. At least I tried. It really boils down to the fact that we don't want others to think that we are failures. You know what? those who really care about you don't think that about you at all. In fact, they will support you regardless of what happens. It is amazing how we concern ourselves with what others my think about us. Here's the thing, be happy with yourself. Acknowledge your accomplishments no matter how small. You'll get through this.
School can do that to you. It's one of the things that started my spiral last fall. I work full time for a university but am finishing off a second degree. I had way too much on the go and was over the top stressed out. Funny thing is that I'm the one who is always giving advice to the students on how to handle their work and stress levels but this time it got the best of me. However, I'm starting to feel much better. I know what you are thinking about school. What if I fail? I won't graduate, my life will be over. Been there. Ask yourself this...so what if you fail a course? Seriously, so what? You take the course again and graduate later. One of things that really got to me was that I wanted to raise my GPA to what I thought was a respectable level. Sure you want to do well but not at the expense of your well being. I'm now looking at it this way. I'm going to do the work as best I can but I'm not going to obsess over it any longer. What happens, happens. At least I tried. It really boils down to the fact that we don't want others to think that we are failures. You know what? those who really care about you don't think that about you at all. In fact, they will support you regardless of what happens. It is amazing how we concern ourselves with what others my think about us. Here's the thing, be happy with yourself. Acknowledge your accomplishments no matter how small. You'll get through this.
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CaffeinatedBen
- Posts: 2
- Joined: Tue Apr 15, 2008 10:34 am
Glad you have the tools and skills under your belt. I read your post, and then had to read it again a few times, because I wanted to make sure before I suggest this: You are sabotaging your life because? That is the question you might want to focus on during your self talk journaling. While you journal your self talk, try to find the pattern of self defeating thinking. I may be way off here, but I am mentioning this because of what I saw in your post. You mentioned five times that you are sabotaging yourself. Your answer is in the journaling. Whatever is going on with you, with your thinking, with your behavior, can reveal itself. You are on Session 3, and that sounds like a good place to be. I hope you find out what's going on. I think it's going to be obvious when you see it in your journaling and self talk. Best of luck.