Hi everyone! I am trying to do session 3 and am finding it more difficult than the first 2 sessions. I am beginning to see just how negative I am so that is good because it gives me the chance to change the thought. However, I am so up and down with how I feel, it is so difficult. I have a couple of better days and then boom down I go again. Monday was a terrible day for me, couldn't stop crying, feeling so lonely, etc. etc. Even messed up a message I sent to Mary, took her reply the wrong way, ended up apologizing to her, etc. etc. I find when I am like this it affects relationships and just about everything in a very negative way. I seem to see things in a very distorted way. Am I making any sense! Does anyone else have all these different emotions? Would love to hear from you.
joy jenkins
I'm now doing session 3
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Tinkerella
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Well, Hello there Joy Jenkins:
You are making progress. If you are recognizing that you have negative thoughts, then you are headed in the right direction.
You mention feeling bad - I can understand that.
But remember, it is our thoughts that produce our feelings.
Sometimes when I feel bad, I have trouble tracing down the thoughts that preceeded those feelings.
Just keep plugging away on Session 3. You are getting there. You are doing good. You can stay on that step as long as you need to. Just take baby steps. You'll find your way. You've made a start!
maryjane
You are making progress. If you are recognizing that you have negative thoughts, then you are headed in the right direction.
You mention feeling bad - I can understand that.
But remember, it is our thoughts that produce our feelings.
Sometimes when I feel bad, I have trouble tracing down the thoughts that preceeded those feelings.
Just keep plugging away on Session 3. You are getting there. You are doing good. You can stay on that step as long as you need to. Just take baby steps. You'll find your way. You've made a start!
maryjane
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Guest
Hi Joy, Session 3 was the absolute pivotal point for me. It will always be the most well worn tool in my new tool box. What you will find is not only have we tormented ourselves with our own self talk, we've put so many other people's self talk in our heads, too. Ex husbands, ex-work partners, ex-boyfriends, friends, the postman, the store clerk, the driver in the car next to us ... just on and on. Mary is so correct about journaling. I went through three spiral notebooks that week. I am down to one notebook per session, and I know that seems like a lot, but I write profusely when I get going. This week I am on 8. Mary Jane is so correct. Every session after 3 hinges on your working 3, understanding 3, and applying it to your life. The quality of my life equals the quality of the things I tell myself, and the quality of what others say to me. I am really minimizing time around those who say negative things to me, about me, or about others. So glad you are staying with us.
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Guest
Hi Joy,
I did the first and second sessions together (per my coach) and will be starting third session on Monday. It sounds like it is a powerful one. I haven't ben journally as much as I would have liked because I have been feeling a little overwhelmed with all of the other work. Doing two sessions in one week was a lot (I'm a perfecionist so I had to try to do everything, not just skim the first like I was asked to do). I am hopeful with the freed up time I will have with only having to do one session this coming week I can journal more.
I noticed while reading the materials in session 2 that I was being to negative in my journaling. I need to be more specific about my emotions and then try to find out why I felt that way and problem solve to heal the underlying issue. I am still having a hard time asserting myself with out coming across as a b****. This is especially try in my work environment where someone can say something, probably innocent, but I fly off the handle about it, either to the person in question or the my co-workers. It isn't good. There has been a time or two when I was able to control it and my co-workers didn't like me for it. They have come to like me for standing up against the crap and feeding the negativity. I need to be more of a problem solver than a complainer. I need to accept more and just float through the anger and frustration I feel. To make a long story short, yu are not alone. I I wish you luck and look forward to hearing moe about your progress.
-Amy
I did the first and second sessions together (per my coach) and will be starting third session on Monday. It sounds like it is a powerful one. I haven't ben journally as much as I would have liked because I have been feeling a little overwhelmed with all of the other work. Doing two sessions in one week was a lot (I'm a perfecionist so I had to try to do everything, not just skim the first like I was asked to do). I am hopeful with the freed up time I will have with only having to do one session this coming week I can journal more.
I noticed while reading the materials in session 2 that I was being to negative in my journaling. I need to be more specific about my emotions and then try to find out why I felt that way and problem solve to heal the underlying issue. I am still having a hard time asserting myself with out coming across as a b****. This is especially try in my work environment where someone can say something, probably innocent, but I fly off the handle about it, either to the person in question or the my co-workers. It isn't good. There has been a time or two when I was able to control it and my co-workers didn't like me for it. They have come to like me for standing up against the crap and feeding the negativity. I need to be more of a problem solver than a complainer. I need to accept more and just float through the anger and frustration I feel. To make a long story short, yu are not alone. I I wish you luck and look forward to hearing moe about your progress.
-Amy