Complete meltdown happening

LovePhob · Post by **LovePhob** » Fri Jul 25, 2008 2:45 am

Hi Sunbound -

You're absolutly right, my anxiety will follow me regardless of where I am. The tears are mostly just frustration and fear.

I think that positive what if'ing is going to be helpful. One of the things I need to remeber is to go easy on myself. I tend to beat myself up for having anxiety or being nervous. I need to give myslef permission to feel uncomfortable wiht all of the change thats happened.

Posting and getting feedback from you all helps keep me on the right track. The disorder makes you think and be fearful of dangers that aren't real, so these posts helps "remember".

Again, a thousand times, thank you.

sunbound · Post by **sunbound** » Fri Jul 25, 2008 3:30 am

The funny thing is that we can post good responses to each other because - we've been there and done that. For me - it isn't long ago I did what you are doing.

You're definitely in my thoughts. I too will need to start doing positive "what if's" instead of negative ones.

praizalotta · Post by **praizalotta** » Fri Jul 25, 2008 5:05 pm

Thank you LovePhob for this forum and everybody on this page for your input! All has really hit home! I landed on the subject by accident and since I am not a mover was going to skip, but started reading and WOW. I am starting on the program again because I want to get off of coffee and anti-depressants. Had a pc breakdown so this time i am feeling my way around the community part of the program. I believe I will succeed this time. My breakdown causers have been loosing 2 jobs because of anxietys & health problems and adult children not wanting to spend time with mom. In fact I feel like they want to totally ignore I exist. I hate this self-pity stuff I get into too. I have been finding myself and making new friends. I love this program and am going to start taking as much advice as I can.

Thanks Again and God Bless,
Praizalotta

*Tonja** · Post by ***Tonja**** » Mon Jul 28, 2008 9:33 am

I know exactly how you feel about running from relationships.. I have done it my whole life. And if left me a single mother with three children to raise on my own until about 2 years ago. I met my husband and we married pretty quickly. I still have alot of the same issues and my thoughts mirror yours sometimes... What if I don't love him? And just think of who I will hurt if I end this? Both of our vehicles are paid for. We are buying our house and just purchased a boat. I will soon be in a nursing program.. I just keep thinking.. I should be happy so why am I not? I have terrible anxiety issues with relationships so I understand you and it felt great to know I am not alone either. I have not started the program yet but I have decided to order it and give it a try. The best of luck to you and I will be praying for you..