Support circle for depression

Anyone suffering from depression may post their history, experience, comments and/or suggestions. Please refrain from indepth discussions about medicines or other therapies.
debchance
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Joined: Sat Nov 15, 2008 8:51 pm

Post by debchance » Sun Jan 04, 2009 4:23 pm

Pecos, Thank you, thank you ;)
K.Denise,welcome to the support circle for depression. If you don't get a response from a post you make please try not to be discouraged or take it personally, try to remember you are dealing with a whole community of depressed and/or anxious people and sometimes we get a little caught up in ourselves. Maybe your post got lost. I know I wrote a couple that were very lengthy and then somehow they disappeared in cyberspace and never ended up on the message board.
Please believe me that this will help with your negative thinking and that your negative thinking is directly related to your depression. I had no idea how much or the extent of my negativity until I did session three. WOW. You can expect that one to produce some anxiety but it is worth it and you can find support here.
You are probably right, people don't like to be around other people who are consistently negative. I don't. I have a friend who I only have contact when she doesn't constantly talk negatively and look at everything with the worst possible point of view. I love her but when she affects my moods so negatively I have to protect myself. I know people have not wanted to hang out with me in the past because I have been such a downer. It's just part of this lovely issue we are all facing and dealing with the best we can.
Depression is my number one problem too and I was doubtful about the likelihood that this program would help, especially the first two sessions. But believe me it does. I am seeing some really neat growth just very recently and it is exciting. I am actually daring to dream again :eek:

K.Denise C
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Joined: Mon Dec 22, 2008 10:21 am

Post by K.Denise C » Mon Jan 05, 2009 6:26 am

debchance-thanks for your reply. It always helps knowing there is people out there who can relate. I can't wait to get to session 3 when the self talk starts. Hopefully, that will help me with the "stinking thinking". One thing I have noticed with myself is I quit smoking 4 months ago. In times past when I've quit I always get more depressed and end up smoking again. I don't want to do that, the main reason being I lost my dad to COPD (lung disease). I haven't taken any type of anti-depressant for years (I never thought they did any good) but I am considering calling my doctor and maybe getting on some meds. I have been in that deep dark hole for too long.

K.Denise C
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Joined: Mon Dec 22, 2008 10:21 am

Post by K.Denise C » Mon Jan 05, 2009 6:33 am

A question I forgot to add to my previous message: Have many of you given up caffine completely? I'm having a hard time doing that especially in the morning. Did you notice a change in your depression when you did give it up?

BM4657
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Joined: Mon Jan 05, 2009 3:14 pm

Post by BM4657 » Mon Jan 05, 2009 8:30 am

Ive gotta be honest here. For years and I mean for a very long time, Ive been suffering from depression for a lot of reasons. As a kid when I was picked on because of the clothes I wore, picked on because of my height, picked on for me being me has had an a negative affect on me and has carried with me all these years. My dad left when I was 9 and even though I have the best mom in the world, that part of me will always be empty. I always feel left out. I always feel like Im weird then others feel the same way. Im always down on myself because I know I can do better. This has really affected the way I interact with people which is non existant and affected me with relationships with the opposite sex. Ive never said this to anyone but you all because we are all here for the same reason. Im new to this program and my CDs and packets stuff is en route to my house. I mean Im feeling better by the intro email that I got today but Im looking for advice in how do you all cope with this?

brianmi
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Joined: Tue Dec 09, 2008 6:26 am

Post by brianmi » Mon Jan 05, 2009 2:03 pm

I'm reading this posting dated July 2008 about being a part of a group that our main problem is depression, thats my biggest problem. I think I been this way since I was a kid, I'm now 51 I sure could use some input. I'm also new in the program.

debchance
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Joined: Sat Nov 15, 2008 8:51 pm

Post by debchance » Mon Jan 05, 2009 2:42 pm

Hi everyone, welcome to those who just got here.
I have dealt with depression for the last 25 years and this program is beginning to help. I really noticed the improvement with session 3. Although panic attacks are also a major problem they are relatively new to my repertoire and are not a constant crippling presence like depression has been.
I always felt different, less than, ashamed, unlovable even though I was loved. That is just part of this rotten thinking that has played such a huge part in getting us here.

debchance
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Post by debchance » Mon Jan 05, 2009 2:56 pm

BM4657,
Just keep hanging on to that sliver of hope that got you here. Committ to working the program to the best of your ability. You will get the tools you need. It will take time but take solace in the fact that you have taken a positive step and are doing this for yourself. Put one foot in front of the other, slowly. Don't look too far ahead, just to the next place you need to step for now. This program will also help with the feelings of inadequacy and alienation you feel. Just follow the instructions of the program as they come and you will begin to feel better, maybe not right away but you will eventually. You are on the right path and you are in good company.
K.Denise,
I have given up caffeine completely but it was for the anxiety it gave me, I am not sure if it has affected my depression or not but I expect so since it causes your body to go up and down, but I think mostly it affects anxiety. I could be wrong though.
Please please do go to your doctor and ask about antidepressants, there is no shame in giving yourself every chance to succeed. You and your doctor can decide if medication is right for you right now. But please do explore that option. Depression differs in severity and length. People with chronic depression need medication more often than those with mild to moderate depression. I have been plagued for over 20 years with chronic severe depression and medication helps me keep my head above water enough so that I can even work this program. I have noticed an improvement in my depression from working this program, I do believe it works. Some people need meds, some don't. Some people only need them for a limited time, others need them indefinitely. This is something you and your doctor need to discuss but I really encourage you to do so. I wish you the best :)

debchance
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Post by debchance » Mon Jan 05, 2009 2:59 pm

K.Denise,
Feel free to private message me if you want to talk about medication or have more questions, I have been studying depression and antidepressants for a long time and I may be able to answer questions or just offer support. I am by no means a doctor or an expert but I would be happy to lend an ear if you would like.

JRae
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Joined: Sun Jan 04, 2009 2:41 pm

Post by JRae » Tue Jan 06, 2009 2:14 pm

Thanks for the welcome debchance. This online support stuff is very new to me. It took me some time to navigate back to here. Raises my anxiety a bit. LOL--gotta have humor you know.

I am meeting an old high school pal tomorrow. Fun, but a bit nerve wracking. She is very up or down and I know I've been through a lot recently too. I hope we don't depress each other.

debchance
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Joined: Sat Nov 15, 2008 8:51 pm

Post by debchance » Tue Jan 06, 2009 2:16 pm

you're welcome :)
Good Luck! :eek:

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