What do you do when someone frequently says negative things about you, to you?
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My boss picks on me. This is a very hard situation. She is good friends with the head of our dept. (her boss) This is a lose lose situation for me. As a matter of fact, I am now on a three day unpaid suspension from work. The telling someone theyve hurt you wont work for me. I pissed my boss off last friday & I knew she was going to get me. Just didnt know her "getting me" was going to be so severe. On top of all of this, I have a very low self esteem. I try so hard to please, but nothing I do helps.
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by achildofthefather:
My boss picks on me. This is a very hard situation. She is good friends with the head of our dept. (her boss) This is a lose lose situation for me. As a matter of fact, I am now on a three day unpaid suspension from work. The telling someone theyve hurt you wont work for me. I pissed my boss off last friday & I knew she was going to get me. Just didnt know her "getting me" was going to be so severe. On top of all of this, I have a very low self esteem. I try so hard to please, but nothing I do helps.
You might need to go to EEOC about that. I hope it works out for you.
My boss picks on me. This is a very hard situation. She is good friends with the head of our dept. (her boss) This is a lose lose situation for me. As a matter of fact, I am now on a three day unpaid suspension from work. The telling someone theyve hurt you wont work for me. I pissed my boss off last friday & I knew she was going to get me. Just didnt know her "getting me" was going to be so severe. On top of all of this, I have a very low self esteem. I try so hard to please, but nothing I do helps.
You might need to go to EEOC about that. I hope it works out for you.
HI PECOS I AM GLAD THAT THE ADVICE OF CAROLYN ITS WORKING FOR YOU, I AM VERY INTRESTED IN THE CIRCLE OF THE DEPRESION THAT YOU TALK ABOUT BECAUSE MY MAIN ISSUE ITS DEPRESION RIGHT NOW AND YOU FEEL BETTER TALKING WITH SOMEBODY ELSE IN THE SAME CICUMSTANCES, I WILL WAIT FOR AN ANSWER THANK YOU BYE................
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I do one hundred percent agree with the above response about going to EEOC or talking to an attorney regarding the situation with the boss who uses her position to harass and intimidate. That's an actionable offense and that boss needs to know she can be personally sued.
Veronica, the Circle of Depression is the Depression Forum. Anyone who uses this forum is depressed. All the posted threads in the Depression Forum have that as the theme. I began the Circle of Depression to encourage other people who felt the same things I used to feel to please post and be supportive of all who posted in this forum. You are very correct. We feel better knowing we've been heard. Others who are depressed do hear us, because they are feeling similar symptoms. I'm not sure if that answers your post. I spent a lot of time last summer reading old posted threads in the Depression Forum. When I could not find posts which spoke to my specific problems, I created a thread and asked for help. When I found other people in the online community who always had something helpful and positive to say, I kept up with their posts. That is how you create a small circle of friends. The extra supportive help was tremendously important. I hope I have helped you today. Your first efforts are already working. Ask for help, others will reach out.
Veronica, the Circle of Depression is the Depression Forum. Anyone who uses this forum is depressed. All the posted threads in the Depression Forum have that as the theme. I began the Circle of Depression to encourage other people who felt the same things I used to feel to please post and be supportive of all who posted in this forum. You are very correct. We feel better knowing we've been heard. Others who are depressed do hear us, because they are feeling similar symptoms. I'm not sure if that answers your post. I spent a lot of time last summer reading old posted threads in the Depression Forum. When I could not find posts which spoke to my specific problems, I created a thread and asked for help. When I found other people in the online community who always had something helpful and positive to say, I kept up with their posts. That is how you create a small circle of friends. The extra supportive help was tremendously important. I hope I have helped you today. Your first efforts are already working. Ask for help, others will reach out.
Last edited by pecos on Wed Feb 25, 2009 11:16 am, edited 1 time in total.
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I completed this program last year, and had successfully moved myself into a really comfortable environment, consisting mostly of positive people. I'd gradually allowed the person who is the subject of this original post back into my personal life. Then, out of nowhere, I was completely blindsided once again by this person's behavior and comments. I returned to this post because I needed to read and reinforce what Carolyn originally said to me. I have reviewed session six for two weeks because I was furious at this man. Now, I will review session seven. One thing I've learned, over and over, since completing the program: No matter how well I am doing, very negative people can pull me off balance and send me into a sad place. Carolyn was one hundred percent correct. This man has low self esteem and his behavior and comments say much more about him than they ever said about me. To anyone reading this I'd like to offer a piece of sage advice: Keep your program handy. Even after you finish, you will have times you will need emergency help. You may even experience something so off balance that you need to repeat the entire program. I'm glad to know help is here, and my safe person is me.