WHAT HAPPEND TO ME?
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Thanks all again. I am not letting it get to me even though I sometimes think man, why cant I just feel excited and good about everything, Its like i lost that comfort zone of living/Confidence in myself. I used to tell everyone else how to live! But I am still moving on and taking the leap to buy a house, I know I would be doing the same things even if I was 100 percent so when I do make it to 100 percent I will be happy I did not sit back and say " I should of did that" ..right???
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Hope this helps:
I've gone thru anxiety on and off since I was a kid. It did change me, but I like to think it changed me for the better. I found a spiritual path that works for me (probably never would have looked if I hadn't gone thru this), I'm closer with my sibs than most because they were and are my primary support system, and I believe when I come thru the other side of this (anxiety/depression), I'll be stronger than ever.
I don't know if this is the right advice for you, but this is working for me. I have gone thru bouts of anxiety/depression 6 or more times over the last 30 years (I'm 48), I've self-medicated with booze and relied on my brother and my spiritual path thru 3 or so of them, used a counselor thru 2, and now finally have decided to use a 3 pronged approach as this is about the worst I've ever gone thru: Psychiatrist (an INCREDIBLE guy!), Anti-depressant and this program (I still have my family and my path, too).
So, is it working? Yes. I still deal with negative or intrusive thoughts (the Doc describes them as fearful thoughts that intrude on my peaceful mind and I, being the over-thinker that I am, latch onto and obsess over them), but I am starting to identify them for what they are - just thoughts.
I NEVER wanted to deal with medication, but I am on Lexapro (not an endorsement, it just happen to work for me) and after working to find the right dosage, I am able to view with a clearer perspective what I am going thru and am making progress towards a stronger me and a happier more confident me.
So in summary, don't give up, utilize all the avenues available to you (going to a head doc doesn't mean you're nuts), the meds can be a big help, and hopefully this program is as helpful as I thinks it will be.
Keep the faith - John.
I've gone thru anxiety on and off since I was a kid. It did change me, but I like to think it changed me for the better. I found a spiritual path that works for me (probably never would have looked if I hadn't gone thru this), I'm closer with my sibs than most because they were and are my primary support system, and I believe when I come thru the other side of this (anxiety/depression), I'll be stronger than ever.
I don't know if this is the right advice for you, but this is working for me. I have gone thru bouts of anxiety/depression 6 or more times over the last 30 years (I'm 48), I've self-medicated with booze and relied on my brother and my spiritual path thru 3 or so of them, used a counselor thru 2, and now finally have decided to use a 3 pronged approach as this is about the worst I've ever gone thru: Psychiatrist (an INCREDIBLE guy!), Anti-depressant and this program (I still have my family and my path, too).
So, is it working? Yes. I still deal with negative or intrusive thoughts (the Doc describes them as fearful thoughts that intrude on my peaceful mind and I, being the over-thinker that I am, latch onto and obsess over them), but I am starting to identify them for what they are - just thoughts.
I NEVER wanted to deal with medication, but I am on Lexapro (not an endorsement, it just happen to work for me) and after working to find the right dosage, I am able to view with a clearer perspective what I am going thru and am making progress towards a stronger me and a happier more confident me.
So in summary, don't give up, utilize all the avenues available to you (going to a head doc doesn't mean you're nuts), the meds can be a big help, and hopefully this program is as helpful as I thinks it will be.
Keep the faith - John.
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Thanks John,
I think sometimes I am just overanylizing myself like you are. I have always been kind of a hypocondriac when I have something wrong with me but always was able get back to normal...This was the only real anxiety etc I have ever dealt with. I believe I will get back to normal, I have made unbelievable progress since when this started 6 months ago, I mean no one else would know I am dealing with any type of scary thoughts or just being scared of being depressed or why I am not myself. I have seen multiple pycs but not really sure what that has done for me , I am kind of afraid to start Lucinda's program again because I feel I am doing pretty well and don't want to face anything again, anyway thanks for your help it will go in my mental database of things help me along the way.
I think sometimes I am just overanylizing myself like you are. I have always been kind of a hypocondriac when I have something wrong with me but always was able get back to normal...This was the only real anxiety etc I have ever dealt with. I believe I will get back to normal, I have made unbelievable progress since when this started 6 months ago, I mean no one else would know I am dealing with any type of scary thoughts or just being scared of being depressed or why I am not myself. I have seen multiple pycs but not really sure what that has done for me , I am kind of afraid to start Lucinda's program again because I feel I am doing pretty well and don't want to face anything again, anyway thanks for your help it will go in my mental database of things help me along the way.
Hello, 
I know what your going thru, I am going thru it now I wake in the nite and I can't go back to sleep, and I wonder what do you have to worry about, my mom passed 2 years ago and it was like loosing a best friend, I did'nt know how to handle it I did'nt cry, I still don't In my mind I still don't beleave she's gone I want her to call me, like she use to, in writing this I feel deep sadness, so yes i also don't feel the same as I use to the forth of july the whole family use to get together and have a picnic in the hills and go boating, swimming, it was a good time so yes i am going thru anxiety now with no plans with family they pretty much do there own thing now. I know i eventually have to get strong. and I know my mom would ask me why am I doing this to myself. I use to be the strong one in the family but I think my mom was my mentor. I know she was. So
I hope that you know that you are not alone there are alot of people out there who are suffering, with problems, even deeper than mine. so take care and remember life is what you make of it. I need to change my way of thinking becouse my mom would want me to be strong again, take care and thank you MW for having a web site like this so people like us can help each other..
PMS 
I know what your going thru, I am going thru it now I wake in the nite and I can't go back to sleep, and I wonder what do you have to worry about, my mom passed 2 years ago and it was like loosing a best friend, I did'nt know how to handle it I did'nt cry, I still don't In my mind I still don't beleave she's gone I want her to call me, like she use to, in writing this I feel deep sadness, so yes i also don't feel the same as I use to the forth of july the whole family use to get together and have a picnic in the hills and go boating, swimming, it was a good time so yes i am going thru anxiety now with no plans with family they pretty much do there own thing now. I know i eventually have to get strong. and I know my mom would ask me why am I doing this to myself. I use to be the strong one in the family but I think my mom was my mentor. I know she was. So
I hope that you know that you are not alone there are alot of people out there who are suffering, with problems, even deeper than mine. so take care and remember life is what you make of it. I need to change my way of thinking becouse my mom would want me to be strong again, take care and thank you MW for having a web site like this so people like us can help each other..
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hey H20man,
You can most certainly e-mail me or send a private message right here on this site.
My email is: Krism17@yahoo.com
You are more than welcome and I hope to talk to you soon!! Hang in there!!
You can most certainly e-mail me or send a private message right here on this site.
My email is: Krism17@yahoo.com
You are more than welcome and I hope to talk to you soon!! Hang in there!!
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My situation is similar. However I do know what caused me to become "screwed up". I have PTSD, MDD, and Panic Disorder. I see a therapist 2X per week and a Psychiatrist 1X per month for medication management. When you find out the causes of your prblems the help will really start taking shape. I wish all of you the fortune of finding out what caused you to feel the way you do. I am lucky enough to know but still suffer very severely every single day. I hope time will help. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!
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Joe V,
I'm in a similar situation to yours. I've been through therapy and am on medication and am well aware of what my problems are. It is really hard to know what they are and suffer with them anyway. I feel so different from other people; I've been like this for so long (I'm 46) that I don't remember what I was like before anxiety ruled my life. I know I'm learning the tools to change, but everything is so hard right now and I feel like I've missed out on so much.
Ladie,
I'm so sorry for your loss. One of the deepest fears I have is losing someone I love. My closest relative, my maternal grandmother, is 89 and although she's in good health, I know she won't live forever and yet I can't imagine life without her. She's the only person other than my husband who accepts me just as I am, without judgment. She's always happy to see me or hear from me. And she isn't even gone yet and I'm scaring myself with the idea of her loss.
I know what it's like when the color drains out of your life. You are still strong; just because you're not handling this situation perfectly, don't be so hard on yourself. Losing a loved one is number one on the stress hit parade. And you are having to relearn some things because you relied on your mom for them. That must be very difficult. As for sleep or lack thereof, I can identify with that as well. And it's harder to function when you don't get enough sleep.
It sounds to me like you're afraid to mourn her because you'll have to accept that she's gone. But she's not totally gone...you have her in your heart and your head and you also have half of her genes, so those are things to remember and hold on to. I believe we will be reunited eventually because love is the strongest force in the world.
And H2O man,
I can identify with your fear of facing your problems, but once you have, they lose their hold on you. We'll all help each other because feeling alone makes it all worse, and here we all understand because we're going through the same things. Onward through the fog!
Les
I'm in a similar situation to yours. I've been through therapy and am on medication and am well aware of what my problems are. It is really hard to know what they are and suffer with them anyway. I feel so different from other people; I've been like this for so long (I'm 46) that I don't remember what I was like before anxiety ruled my life. I know I'm learning the tools to change, but everything is so hard right now and I feel like I've missed out on so much.
Ladie,
I'm so sorry for your loss. One of the deepest fears I have is losing someone I love. My closest relative, my maternal grandmother, is 89 and although she's in good health, I know she won't live forever and yet I can't imagine life without her. She's the only person other than my husband who accepts me just as I am, without judgment. She's always happy to see me or hear from me. And she isn't even gone yet and I'm scaring myself with the idea of her loss.
I know what it's like when the color drains out of your life. You are still strong; just because you're not handling this situation perfectly, don't be so hard on yourself. Losing a loved one is number one on the stress hit parade. And you are having to relearn some things because you relied on your mom for them. That must be very difficult. As for sleep or lack thereof, I can identify with that as well. And it's harder to function when you don't get enough sleep.
It sounds to me like you're afraid to mourn her because you'll have to accept that she's gone. But she's not totally gone...you have her in your heart and your head and you also have half of her genes, so those are things to remember and hold on to. I believe we will be reunited eventually because love is the strongest force in the world.
And H2O man,
I can identify with your fear of facing your problems, but once you have, they lose their hold on you. We'll all help each other because feeling alone makes it all worse, and here we all understand because we're going through the same things. Onward through the fog!
Les
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Bees4me- this sounds like a repeat of my problems. Depression, yes, anxiety yes. I was on Paxil many yrs ago ( I am 51) and it didnt work well for me. I am on Lexapro/Wellbutrin combo and it has worked great. It is good to know there are many good meds and if one doesnt work there are others. The key is to stay on them for at least a month to see how the med works for you. I resisted meds for a long time but i take mine everyday like clockwork and I am glad I do.