Hopelessness and self-pity are my friends

DDan · Post by **DDan** » Tue Mar 31, 2009 6:27 am

I received the pkg. for a 30 day trial and have begun, not so faithfully, to go through it. As usuall, I am faltering in completing the homework because it requires work and me facing what I have become. It seems that this will fall by the wayside like all of the other counselors and books I have tried. I started writing down the negative self-talk but I can't be writing every minute of the day. So I give up. Again. My wife is expecting me to return the pkg. because she has seen this before and is not thrilled because I am unemployed (or in my mind, unemployable). I hate to be a burden on people and seem to be satisfied to live in a world of self-pity. I tell my wife it's the only thing I am good at. Is this depressing or what?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Mar 31, 2009 7:18 am

How badly do you want to stop feeling that way? That's what I asked myself and in short I'd do just about anything to overcome anxiety, depression and agoraphobia. Sometimes you have to force yourself to do things even if you don't want to. I hated the thoughts of walking my dog due to anxiety but I've been forcing myself to do it every day 2 to 3 times a day and it's getting easier and easier every time I do it.

Have you considered antidepressants? Have you talked to your DR? AD's are my last resort but so far I've been able to pull myself out of depression on my own (not all the way but the majority of the way) by forcing myself to get up and do things like cleaning around the house, exercising, eating healthy and doing this program along with reading other motivational books. I know you don't want to do anything but sit in self-pity but as you know that's not going to get you anywhere and no one ever said there is a magic anything to getting over our depression and anxieties it's work... that will eventually pay off if you put your time and effort into it.

TotalKArma · Post by **TotalKArma** » Sat Apr 11, 2009 4:21 pm

Don't give up, give life a chance. Just know that your not alone everyone has felt down before. I, have never met you but I believe in you. Say to yourself, today I'm changing my life, realize your here for a reason. Remember your not alone, stop the negative self talk, tell yourself the truth, your a wonderful, fantastic, creation of God....Hang in there,friend...God Bless...

rose_thorn98 · Post by **rose_thorn98** » Sun Apr 12, 2009 11:45 pm

DDan, not sure if you have done this but if you haven't please go see your Dr and tell them how you feel.. It was the LAST thing I wanted to do but I made myself. She prescribed me Lovan 20 which has a slow/gradual absorbtion in my system so I had no side effects going on or off it.
It scared me to go on the medicaion first but the Dr simply explained it will ASSIST me in re-programming my thoughts, and it did. With the medication and this life saving program I have been happy for a year (without any medication)and able to stop the bad thoughts and panic attacks
I know Depression is like flying blind through a turbulent cloud with no direction or indication when you will get out but have faith, that cloud will soon disappear to beautiful blue skys ..