Support circle for depression

debchance · Post by **debchance** » Thu Jan 29, 2009 6:41 am

Clanne, I agree it is comforting to have good company. I have a mini party in my head when I take a shower or make the bed. I give myself credit for taking out the garbage and dragging it down to the curb. What a big girl!

Lucinda says to overreact to the little successes and dwell on those instead of the negative little ones. It makes a big difference when I remember to do it. It is a hard habit to break, this negative thinking, but it is working.
Take care,
Deb

jbasch · Post by **jbasch** » Thu Jan 29, 2009 7:51 am

Hey Denise
What are the "good day supplements" where can I find them?
Julie

Originally posted by K.Denise C:
I'm convinced this program will work, but it takes work from us. I feel so much better than I did. About a week ago I started taking an anti-depressant for awhile. Years ago when I took meds it made me feel like a failure and weak. I don't feel that way anymore. I wanted relief. And I didn't even have to increase to what the doctor suggested. Not only that but I started taking the Good days supplements from Luccinda.
Hang in there

jbasch · Post by **jbasch** » Thu Jan 29, 2009 8:00 am

Hi Everyone, I love this thread and having a place to hear what everyone else is going through and doing. I'm working in session 3 and it's pushing my buttons and straining my brain to pinpoint my negative thoughts and find a positive one to replace them. I do feel better than before I started the program. I worry and wallow in self-pity alot! Exercising is hard, staying away from caffeine is hard! etc.
Julie

Originally posted by Clanne:
hi there..... it is strangely uplifting to see how many people are experiencing the same depressed thoughts that I also feel. There are some days when it feels exhausting just to move from one basic activity to another. exhausting just to fill up your tank with gas or order coffee. this is a great forum....and a relief to share the burden with folks who can understand...... take care!! smile!!

Clanne · Post by **Clanne** » Thu Jan 29, 2009 10:55 am

hi there! good to hear from ya'll. hope that you had a good day, and tha "perspective" ruled the day. "positive thinking" seems to certainly be a pretty strong brace to this whole program. By the way "Clanne" sounds as though I'm a girl. I'm a 34 year old male from Massachusetts. haha Talk to everyone a bit later. Have a good night!

K.Denise C · Post by **K.Denise C** » Sun Feb 01, 2009 11:42 am

jbasch: Sorry it took a few days to get back to you. Weekends always seem hard for me to find the time to post. When I ordered the program one of the incentives was a free 30 day supply of the Good Days from Attacking Anexity & Depression. It consists of 2 vitamins, 1 omega 3, and a mood lifter each day. They are very reasonable priced. I took them to my doctor and he said they were fine to take with the anti-depressants. The phone number to the Good Living Lab is 800-511-7387. I'm on my 2nd 30 day supply and I think it has helped somewhat. If nothing else, vitamins are good for you if you don't eat super healthy.
Hope that helps

Denise

Kellytina · Post by **Kellytina** » Mon Feb 02, 2009 6:21 am

Good morning. I just started the program last night after having it in my posession for 2 months. I almost returned it, but passed the 30 day trial. I'm glad I kept it because I feel like I need all the help I can get.
I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years a few months back. After listing to the tapes, I realized one of the reasons I cry all the time over him now is because I saw him as my "safe" person, even though the relationship was impossible. He was the one I would run to when things got overwhelming to me, and not having him around anymore has caused me alot of sadness. Then, at the 1st of the year, my small, laid back company got bought out by a large, corporate one. While I am still employed and am thoroughly grateful for that expecially in these difficult times, I feel like I'm under a great deal of pressure and that I have to prove myself all over again.
This morning, one of my agents (I am an office admin. in a real estate company) came in and told me her boyfriend committed suicide over the weekend and she found out she has melanoma. Sometimes, this world seems so harsh and scary, I can barely pull myself out of bed. And it's hard to explain it to people. You don't want anyone to think you can't handle yourself for fear they will find out you're not as together as you seem to be and you will lose everything. Sorry to ramble, it's just been a rough start to the week, but nothing like what my agent is going through.

SethAdamson · Post by **SethAdamson** » Mon Feb 02, 2009 9:53 am

hey kellytina, i understand your struggle with your safe person also being someone you can't have a relationship with. my mother, like many people, is/was my safe person. She is a wonderful mother, but i've started to realize that she is part of the reason i'm depressed. she's only my safe person if i feel really down, and even if i dont feel down, she seems to find a way of talking me into being upset so that she can then step in and help me. I know that she doesnt do it on purpose, but it seems like she is only worried about herself unless i have a problem. she can't be happy for me unless i'm sad with her. i'm 20 now, i moved out of her house when i was 17 to move in with my dad. they had been divorced since i was 12, which was a miricle they even made it that far. it was mostly due to my little brother who has alot of medical and behavioral issues, so they stayed together for him. she was the one who i was around all the time when i was little, we didnt have alot of money and my dad was at work on the farm most of the time. we moved from colorado when i was 10 to arizona so he could find a better job, which he has had a lot of success with. Unfortunately, as i've gotten older i've seen more in depth into my mother and who she really is as a person, and its not someone that i can have in my life. how do i love my mother but really really not like her as a person?

pecos · Post by **pecos** » Mon Feb 02, 2009 10:32 am

It's good to recognize disruptive personality quirks (traits) exist in people we love. We don't have to stop caring about them, but isn't it wonderful to realize we don't have to emulate those traits now, or ever. Life is what we make it. Life for others IS what they already made it.

So true about making unsafe people our safe person. My ex-husband was my safe person many years ago. I discovered later in life that's like smearing ones self with honey and going out looking for a hungry bear with sharp teeth. Not good, not healthy, not smart. Only safe person you have is yourself. The skills here will help you make yourself a darned good safe person for you.

Daizy · Post by **Daizy** » Tue Feb 03, 2009 3:43 am

Thank you Mary. I feel like a ninnie, I was looking at the wrong dates.

Daizy · Post by **Daizy** » Tue Feb 03, 2009 3:44 am

I feel lost and worthless most of the time and not finding a reason to carry on. I found a church to attend and feel happy about that but most of the time I am completey depressed.