Support circle for depression

ForDTB&Me · Post by **ForDTB&Me** » Tue Nov 25, 2008 9:06 am

I would like to join this support group. Depression is my main problem, depression, worry, catastrophising....I just started week 3 yesterday. I am not on meds, don't want to take them. I've been better the past two weeks but I still am not myself. It's like moving through mud every day and hardly getting anywhere. At least the feeling of hopelessness has subsided a bit.

pecos · Post by **pecos** » Tue Nov 25, 2008 9:28 am

Welcome. You are certainly a member here, and those of us who post here will always be here for you. When you get tired of trudging along in the mud of your days, please believe, there are good roads ahead. You have to work hard, and no part of any session will be easy. The end result is going to be worth your effort. Stay with us. Talk to us here. And I hope you have a nice Thanksgiving.

monty'smom · Post by **monty'smom** » Tue Nov 25, 2008 9:42 am

Originally posted by ForDTB&Me:
I would like to join this support group. Depression is my main problem, depression, worry, catastrophising....I just started week 3 yesterday. I am not on meds, don't want to take them. I've been better the past two weeks but I still am not myself. It's like moving through mud every day and hardly getting anywhere. At least the feeling of hopelessness has subsided a bit.

Welcome,

The fact you can say you feel better in 2 weeks is a great beginning and one to really concentrate on. It's a positive thought and those are what will help pull you out of the mud you feel you are moving through.

It's so vital for us to acknowledge each and every tiny bit of goodness we feel and make it stand out in our minds. There will be ups and downs along the journey and if you dwell on the downs it will slow down the progresses.

Take small steps, cherish each present moment, reward any improvements and be kind, gentle and comforting to yourself.

You will do just fine if you tryly work on the positives and keep at the program, faithfully and at a pace that works for you.

Best wishes!!

debchance · Post by **debchance** » Tue Nov 25, 2008 4:06 pm

Originally posted by ForDTB&Me:
I would like to join this support group. Depression is my main problem, depression, worry, catastrophising....I just started week 3 yesterday. I am not on meds, don't want to take them. I've been better the past two weeks but I still am not myself. It's like moving through mud every day and hardly getting anywhere. At least the feeling of hopelessness has subsided a bit.

Hi Welcome, I just got here myself and depression is also my main problem. Worry and catastrophizing are right up there too. They have all been crippling. I know about the mud. One thing I have done is look at a plant or flower or tree and examine it's make up really closely. I'm serious. Take your time and really focus. Look at the details and the way it is formed, the structure, symmetry.It will get you out of your head and back to the present in the real world if only for a moment. When I was so depressed I could barely get out of bed one time my best friend drug me out and took me for a walk. She said "look Deb, look at this tree, look at the leaf on this tree" I did it and it blew me away. Lord knows I was too much in the muck of my head to even know there was a tree there much less notice a leaf. Try it and see if it does anything for you. It really did for me.

mr mom · Post by **mr mom** » Tue Nov 25, 2008 5:46 pm

Hey All,

Haven't been online for 3 days so am just catching up.

Thanks for the responses and concern. That really feels good. Montysmom I will get the calcium combo and try it. Thanks
Kidsisme, thank you so much for your thoughts. You're right, she is very hurt. There isn't any trust there right now. And you are right on the money about what I need to do.
I am not in a support group or AA, just doing this program and reminding myself every day that drinking is costing me my marriage and self respect and health.

My anxiety and depression were my main reason for drinking in order to medicate, calm down, and kill the pain. The drinking led to lies and verbal abuse and rage. This program is my last hope. I've tried therapy & prozac, but never could change my negative thinking behind it all.
It is very hard, but I will let her come to me. She already asked me if I wanted to come back into our bed to sleep on Sunday morning at 6 am. That was huge. I am waiting on her where I can, being gentle and patient, doing whatever she asks. I am commited to her and this program.

I'm going to check out the books and program you recommended.

Thank you all again for your support.

We are what we think about...

debchance · Post by **debchance** » Wed Nov 26, 2008 5:29 am

Hi everyone,
I would just like to ask that you all keep my daughter in your prayers. She is four years old and is having outpatient surgery today for a rectal prolapse. Basically her rectum is slipping out of her anus and it keeps happening. They are going to try and correct the problem and send the tissue out for biopsy and also test for cystic fibrosis. I am trying to stay calm and use the tools I have gotten so far. Knowing I have the support here helps. I have faith she will be ok but let's face it, I just can't take it totally in stride. Good news is I have been able to remain calm and matter of fact so she is not freaked out at all. She also has not been in any pain so far.
Thanks for your support, hope you all have a great and worry free day,
Deb

dinobail · Post by **dinobail** » Wed Nov 26, 2008 11:16 am

Debchance,
I am praying for your daughter and you as well. Please let us know how things are going. We are here for you!

monty'smom · Post by **monty'smom** » Wed Nov 26, 2008 1:09 pm

((((debchance))))

Prayers and comforting hugs to you and your precious little girl. I just found your post and wish I had seen it earlier.

I hope everything is going well for you both tonight and that your baby continues to be free of pain. Nothing is as gut wrenching as when one of our children has any kind of problem.

God Bless, please let us know hoe she is doing.

debchance · Post by **debchance** » Thu Nov 27, 2008 8:15 am

Hi dinobail and monty'smom, Thank you for your good thoughts. My girl is doing great. The procedure went well and the doctor found that it was not a rectal prolapse might indicate cancer or cystic fibrosis. It was a very large polyp at the opening of her rectum. He was able to remove it cauderize (sp?) it and we got to bring her home pain free! He is still sending it in for biopsy and testing for cystic fibrosis but it looks all clear! YEA!!!!! I can't believe how exhausted I was last night, but it was a good exhaustion. My depression is really good today!
Happy Thanksgiving,
Deb

pecos · Post by **pecos** » Fri Nov 28, 2008 10:28 am

debchance, I have not been in the community for a few days and I just saw your post. I am so sorry your child had to endure such a terrible situation; but truly relieved to hear it seems to be taking a turn for the better. Keep us posted. My sincere best wishes to you and your family.