I need help...

Miss Katie · Post by **Miss Katie** » Wed Aug 20, 2008 7:31 am

Bottomline: I'm being open-minded about this and looking at this as NO FAILURE... Just personal choice of an ALTERNATIVE SOLUTION... Right now, I'm feeling so good writing this, b/c I believe in it and I am very comfortable with letting this be a last minute decision... In other words, I will be anxiety free for the next 4-weeks, and continue staying lean and fit... But once the show comes around, I will decide if I feel like doing it or not... It's only a 1-hour drive, it's fairly cheap and convenient for me... So thanks for the advice you guys, I am feeling so much better now...

Excellent attitude Ivan! Good luck with the competition!

Lynn

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Aug 20, 2008 7:38 am

Yeah, that's if I do it!!! But no, seriously, I'm just happy and excited b/c I thrive on change... What fun is bodybuilding year round??? I like to get back into sports and have that balance... Then when I get hungry again, I can always go back to bodybuilding...

Keeping options open really takes pressure off... And it has worked... Remember, I did this earlier this year not knowing if I would do as well in competition... Well, in my 1st 6 shows I got 1st once, over the course of 3 years..

This year, after doing it DIFFERENT, not like many bodybuilders think is RIGHT, I did what felt RIGHT to me and my body...

I did BETTER THAN EVER!!! 1st place in 4 shows!!!!

So apparently, there are many ways to do well in a given venture or goal..
Thanks for the support!!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Aug 20, 2008 3:44 pm

Ivan,

GREAT! Sounds like you figured out exactly what to do for yourself. Let us know how it goes.

As far as the protein shakes...I don't know. I just need something that is drinkable that is healthy and will help give me a lot of nutrients and will keep weight on me when the anxiety is so bad I can't eat much.

I am dealing with some medical issues that cause REALLY high testosterone/estrogen, so I don't think any soy products are good for me right now. I have been told they are not good when estrogen levels are high. Is this correct?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Aug 20, 2008 4:11 pm

Frances, have you heard of ENSURE? It is a drink for folks like us that have a very hard time getting vitamins and nutrition into us. I discovered it with my patients that were nutritionally challenged...i.e, cancer patients, geriatric population, etc.. BOOST is another one that claims it has high nutritional value as well as a good caloric intake. Both can be purchased at a pharmacy, CVS, Wholesale Warehouse, etc.. Only drawback...they tend to be expensive, but perhaps you can find sales on them. Good Luck!

Take Care,
Lynn

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Aug 20, 2008 5:07 pm

Thanks Lynn.

Yes I have heard of them. I think they have lots of sugar and additives though...not sure. That is why I was asking because I want something all natural that is really healthy. Might be the best out there?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Aug 22, 2008 8:57 am

Try EAS drinks.. They are low in sugar, high protein and little fat... They have soy concentrate though.. And soy is not harmful..

I would say a good protein shake would be:

Whey protein, fat-free milk, banana, papaya, dark chocolate, blueberries, 1/2 carrot, 1 tablespoon of peanut butter, wheat germ, 1 tablespoon of honey, cinnamon, and a handful of almonds....

Also, everything is going well... I'm taking things day by day...

Here is a clip of my posing routine from my last contest---> <A HREF="http://www.nvisiondigital.net/NGA_DeSot ... ideo-1.mov" TARGET=_blank>http://www.nvisiondigital.net/NGA_DeSot ... o-1.mov</A>

I hope this inspires many of you of the possibility of believing in your dreams and goals....

I live with anxiety but am still able to accomplish goals I set for myself b/c I will not be defeated.. I will move on and continue learning new ways to win....

Ivan

Joey · Post by **Joey** » Fri Aug 22, 2008 4:58 pm

Ivan,

Thanks for the experienced advice. I will try that out!

I am happy that you are back in a place of peace within regarding your choices...
I hope you get everything you are looking for out of it!

Srosa34 · Post by **Srosa34** » Sun Aug 24, 2008 7:58 am

yes I am... Thanks Frances... I'm out of town on vacation right now with my family and it's been a disaster so far.. I can't wait to get back home and see my psychologist...

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Sep 08, 2008 9:03 am

I am getting back into my routine... Stupid hurricane gustov sucked.. I hate evacuating..

My anxiety came back, but ever since this program, is has not gotten as bad as it was before the program...

I woke up this morning questionning my life which for is a definite no-no... My life is what it is... I used to want to be married and have and raise kids... But things changed..

I currently am ok with just living on my own and never getting married or having kids... Life for me is hard enough as it is.. The only way I'd get married would be if I met a woman who could be very compassionate and empathetic OR who has anxiety like me.. I dont know and dont really care b/c I'm ok just being single...

I was at the grocery store getting weeks groceries AND the way I react to stress is different from many ppl.. I dont drink or smoke.. I do workout and take time to relax...

And I've studied that erectile dysfunction can occur with too much stress...

Well I must be an exception, b/c when I get stressed out I get very sexually-inclined..

I was constantly catching myself checking out woman AND I would love to go up and talk to them, and I really need to, but when I'm anxious, although physically I'm good to go like a racehorse, my mental maturity is not there.. I'm so frozen I have no idea what to say..

Its like, when im not in the mood for woman, I can talk and attract them... But when I'm in the mood, I cant talk b/c I'm so nervous and not thinking straight.. I saw this girl bending over strapping her baby in the back seat, she has short white shorts, and I was so turned on by that.. At the last minute, I saw that she saw me through the side window... I dont really know what she thought, I'm hoping she understands I'm a man with feelings... Many of them sexual... But I'm not like most men, I have a romantic compassionate side... I just would want to have a g/f who is liberal with the relationship... That's what I would like to have for now... In the meantime, I'd be working on myself and my anxiety/depression issues...

Which puzzles me as to the attraction between men and women... Women, keeping it simple, want a guy with confidence & security... My confidence comes and goes like the wind blows...

I have not had many g/f's in my life, I'm practically a virgin, although technically not.. and the technicality doesnt even count b/c I didnt even enjoy the experience for that matter..

My only way of coping with these sexual tensions and urges under stressful situations is to self-gratify (politically correct term)... And I dont mind this b/c it's normal healthy and natural... If I didnt have this, I dont know how I would get through life...

But for me, I desire sex when I get anxious or stressed... Although it's admirable that I would be willing to approach a woman and converse, I don't know how to do that in a way that communicates interest in a way that she could agree with... We all know it's like a non-verbal thing we both agree on, (most woman I approach show interest non-verbally), but when I talk, they lose interest... So in a sense, I have to say what they want to hear to get intimate with them.. My definition of intimate here is nothing more than a phone # exchange and perhaps conversating over the phone getting to know each other and maybe going out sometime as friends..

Why is this so complicated? I have a master's degree and I still feel like the dumbbest guy around women...