Thanks for reminding me. We all need reminders now and then when we get self absorbed in something in our own lives. I will try and reply more ofton to posts I feel my words can help. Thank You for reminding us all!!
Wayne
Purpose in this community
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I have to agree with the chat room issue, i have found it to be pretty pointless. Every time I go in, it seems that most of the people already know each other and chat only to each other. Maybe thats what all chat rooms are like, i'm pretty inexperienced, but it would seem like it could be such a great way to communicate live with people, get encouragement, and make new friends....maybe the people who have a little more self esteem/confidence could use their skills to try to draw in new people to join the conversations? Julie
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Thank you for reminding me to be more sensitive to this issue. I have to say that the times I've reached out and asked for feedback, I was blessed with responses and more importantly,,,,it was exactly what I needed at the time. Everyone here really cares and when I needed some support, I received it. I'm going to more attentive to these posts from now on. Thanks again!!
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This is a good THINK to remember. The source is not me, it is a quote, and the source is mentioned at the end of this post:
ALL I REALLY NEED TO KNOW I LEARNED IN KINDERGARTEN
(a guide for Global Leadership)
All I really need to know about how to live and what to do and how to be I learned in kindergarten. Wisdom was not at the top of the graduate school mountain, but there in the sand pile at school.
These are the things I learned:
Share everything.
Play fair.
Don't hit people.
Put things back where you found them.
Clean up your own mess.
Don't take things that aren't yours.
Say you're sorry when you hurt somebody.
Wash your hands before you eat.
Flush.
Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.
Live a balanced life - learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some.
Take a nap every afternoon.
When you go out in the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands and stick together.
Be aware of wonder. Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup: the roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that.
Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even the little seed in the Styrofoam cup - they all die. So do we.
And then remember the Dick-and-Jane books and the first word you learned - the biggest word of all - LOOK.
Everything you need to know is in there somewhere. The Golden Rule and love and basic sanitation. Ecology and politics and equality and sane living.
Take any one of those items and extrapolate it into sophisticated adult terms and apply it to your family life or your work or government or your world and it holds true and clear and firm. Think what a better world it would be if we all - the whole world - had cookies and milk at about 3 o'clock in the afternoon and then lay down with our blankies for a nap. Or if all governments had as a basic policy to always put things back where they found them and to clean up their own mess.
And it is still true, no matter how old you are, when you go out in the world, it is best to hold hands and stick together.
[Source: "ALL I REALLY NEED TO KNOW I LEARNED IN KINDERGARTEN" by Robert Fulghum. See his web site at <A HREF="http://www.robertfulghum.com/" TARGET=_blank>http://www.robertfulghum.com/</A> ]
ALL I REALLY NEED TO KNOW I LEARNED IN KINDERGARTEN
(a guide for Global Leadership)
All I really need to know about how to live and what to do and how to be I learned in kindergarten. Wisdom was not at the top of the graduate school mountain, but there in the sand pile at school.
These are the things I learned:
Share everything.
Play fair.
Don't hit people.
Put things back where you found them.
Clean up your own mess.
Don't take things that aren't yours.
Say you're sorry when you hurt somebody.
Wash your hands before you eat.
Flush.
Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.
Live a balanced life - learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some.
Take a nap every afternoon.
When you go out in the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands and stick together.
Be aware of wonder. Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup: the roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that.
Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even the little seed in the Styrofoam cup - they all die. So do we.
And then remember the Dick-and-Jane books and the first word you learned - the biggest word of all - LOOK.
Everything you need to know is in there somewhere. The Golden Rule and love and basic sanitation. Ecology and politics and equality and sane living.
Take any one of those items and extrapolate it into sophisticated adult terms and apply it to your family life or your work or government or your world and it holds true and clear and firm. Think what a better world it would be if we all - the whole world - had cookies and milk at about 3 o'clock in the afternoon and then lay down with our blankies for a nap. Or if all governments had as a basic policy to always put things back where they found them and to clean up their own mess.
And it is still true, no matter how old you are, when you go out in the world, it is best to hold hands and stick together.
[Source: "ALL I REALLY NEED TO KNOW I LEARNED IN KINDERGARTEN" by Robert Fulghum. See his web site at <A HREF="http://www.robertfulghum.com/" TARGET=_blank>http://www.robertfulghum.com/</A> ]
Hi Pecos,
As I was reading your posts, someone wrote about what CBT teaches. What does CBT mean? Also, I have wanted to get alittle more feedback on my posts also, but you know, we all have our own issues at any given moment and want so much to find help with whatever we are dealing with. I remember on the tapes when Lucinda said that this was a pretty selfish condition, certainly not on purpose, its just takes over our every moment. But I know we'll all get there with practice, practice , practice. Suzzie
As I was reading your posts, someone wrote about what CBT teaches. What does CBT mean? Also, I have wanted to get alittle more feedback on my posts also, but you know, we all have our own issues at any given moment and want so much to find help with whatever we are dealing with. I remember on the tapes when Lucinda said that this was a pretty selfish condition, certainly not on purpose, its just takes over our every moment. But I know we'll all get there with practice, practice , practice. Suzzie
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Hi Suzzie, Mary explained that very well. I will add a website that goes off in several directions with this theory, which was developed by Aaron Beck, MD.
<A HREF="http://www.candleinthedark.com/beck.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.candleinthedark.com/beck.html</A>
You can find some of his books in any library. As for wanting more feedback, you are a member here, too. All you need to do is identify what you want feedback on and then post a new topic and ask for help. There are so many people in this community who are good helpers. I am only beginning Session Nine tomorrow, so I have a long way to go. I will be right here with you, and I will often put the big S in Self for me, and ask for help for myself, too.
<A HREF="http://www.candleinthedark.com/beck.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.candleinthedark.com/beck.html</A>
You can find some of his books in any library. As for wanting more feedback, you are a member here, too. All you need to do is identify what you want feedback on and then post a new topic and ask for help. There are so many people in this community who are good helpers. I am only beginning Session Nine tomorrow, so I have a long way to go. I will be right here with you, and I will often put the big S in Self for me, and ask for help for myself, too.
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Great thread! I think there are so many of that can relate to the "no views" and "no replies" conundrum. I agree that I also, with respect to depression, by contrast to Don, am not sure what to say to these "sufferers" and would not want to lessen their plight by replying with some silliness that isn't warranted and seems insincere.
I've struggled too with feelings of inadequacy when I've posted and nobody has responded and in some cases, even looked at what I've written. It is tough to bare your soul and takes courage oftentimes to post here. I am encouraged to keep going forward here and responding to others' posts and know that I am not alone.
I've struggled too with feelings of inadequacy when I've posted and nobody has responded and in some cases, even looked at what I've written. It is tough to bare your soul and takes courage oftentimes to post here. I am encouraged to keep going forward here and responding to others' posts and know that I am not alone.
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Tania, you are absolutely not alone. If you post in the depression forum, I will reply to you, always! I am here for serious depression, and admit I don't often visit forums outside of the general two, depression, and my peer group (June). I don't usually have that much time, and when I either write and post a question, or I respond to someone, it takes me a while to write it out because I want to make sure it is delivered with some clarity. By that I mean, because of my depression, my thinking gets cloudy. I can write something that makes sense to me, and it is so unclear I am later dumfounded that anyone understood what I wrote. And, you can always send me a PM.