Hi I'm new to the program
Hi I'm clayh and I have never really had anyone to talk to about my depression and anxiety so this is all very new to me.I wanted to know if anyone else feels so tired all day they don't get much accomplished and your family just thinks your lazy.Well my family thinks this way and this makes me feel even more depressed ,it's just a endless cycle of depression and anxiety.What can I do?
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Guest
Hi Clay, welcome. What can you do? Well, you can go to a doctor, or see a therapist, or work this program. Yes, your biology is very affected by your depression, and visa versa. People who are not depressed see a lot of our symptoms as things we can just simply stop doing. If we could, we would, because we are suffering. I find this program has helped me more with my depression than anything else I've ever tried. It works, and it teaches you how not to do the things that, for the most part, made you depressed in the first place. Good luck.
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Guest
Clayh,
Well, it's good to see you posting! I understand exactly what you are going through. I have had bouts of depression like this off and on. Where you don't even have the energy or desire to get up and get dressed! Then you feel more down on yourself because you have a list of things to do, and don't care enough to get them done, but do care enough that they aren't done that you beat yourself up about it! Ugh...and others who don't suffer with it have NO CLUE.
The good thing is, the further you go in the program, the better and better you will feel. Try to accept that they don't understand and feel this way about what you are going through. For now, it is what it is. You will get better. Let me tell you, there have been times when I have been so depressed I didn't have the energy to help myself...or try to combat all the negative self-talk with positive. I don't know if you are a christian or not, but if you are...my best advice (it has worked for me in the past) is to watch your christian stations on tv and play the music for as many hours a day as you can. This helps when you don't have the energy yourself to get positive. At my lowest points...where I have found it hard to find purpose enough to get out of bed...I would do this for several hours a day. (Turn it on while getting ready for work...watch it on my lunch break, listen to the christian stations in my car...watch it when I got home in the evening for at least a few hours.) When I did this, within 1 to 2 weeks I had my spunk back and was able to start caring and had the energy to do the things I needed to do.
If you are not a christian, I don't want to push that on you...although, I know it would help. So, if you are not open to that, then get positive books, and get some on CDs if you can so you can LISTEN to them. Maybe download your favorite up beat songs and some of these books on an MP3 player and take it with you.
When you feed this in constantly...it will be a QUICK pick me up.
As you go through the program....you will change more and more. Don't worry...this may be the way it is today...and may be for a little while...but it will not STAY this way.
Be blessed!
Well, it's good to see you posting! I understand exactly what you are going through. I have had bouts of depression like this off and on. Where you don't even have the energy or desire to get up and get dressed! Then you feel more down on yourself because you have a list of things to do, and don't care enough to get them done, but do care enough that they aren't done that you beat yourself up about it! Ugh...and others who don't suffer with it have NO CLUE.
The good thing is, the further you go in the program, the better and better you will feel. Try to accept that they don't understand and feel this way about what you are going through. For now, it is what it is. You will get better. Let me tell you, there have been times when I have been so depressed I didn't have the energy to help myself...or try to combat all the negative self-talk with positive. I don't know if you are a christian or not, but if you are...my best advice (it has worked for me in the past) is to watch your christian stations on tv and play the music for as many hours a day as you can. This helps when you don't have the energy yourself to get positive. At my lowest points...where I have found it hard to find purpose enough to get out of bed...I would do this for several hours a day. (Turn it on while getting ready for work...watch it on my lunch break, listen to the christian stations in my car...watch it when I got home in the evening for at least a few hours.) When I did this, within 1 to 2 weeks I had my spunk back and was able to start caring and had the energy to do the things I needed to do.
If you are not a christian, I don't want to push that on you...although, I know it would help. So, if you are not open to that, then get positive books, and get some on CDs if you can so you can LISTEN to them. Maybe download your favorite up beat songs and some of these books on an MP3 player and take it with you.
When you feed this in constantly...it will be a QUICK pick me up.
As you go through the program....you will change more and more. Don't worry...this may be the way it is today...and may be for a little while...but it will not STAY this way.
Be blessed!
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Guest
Hi Clayh,
Tomorrow I will be finishing the first week of the program. So I am new as well. I know exactly how you feel and am struggling with it right now myself. I used to mentally beat myself up that I was lazy and that's why I never got all the things done that I needed to, especially paying bills (I have a fear of not having enough money after a period of time a couple of years ago when I overdrew on checking account several times and rang up a lot of money on my credit card - due to being in a job that didn't pay me enough money), eating healthy, going to the gym, and completely this program. I first bought this program three years ago, but it is only know that I am dedicated to doing it (I am doing the coaching program because I need someone to keep me on track).
My boyfriend of 8 years just broke up with me because he couldn't handle my insecurities and being tired all the time. Whenever he wanted to go out late at night I would be so tired to even think about it would make me cry. He just didn't get it and I didn't get it either until recently. I thought I was just not a night person anymore, but now I see that I am so tired because of my depression. I sleep, but when I wake up I feel like I haven't slept at all. Since starting the relaxation cd in the morning right after I wake up getting out of bed ahs been a lot easier. I might not have any more energy yet, but it has definitely helped me to physically get myself out of bed. I wasn't late to work one day this week, when I am usually at least 5-10 minutes late (if there isn't any traffic) because I just can't get out of bed.
I have talked a lot about this program with my ex, who is very supportive of it and my recovery, but refuse to tell my parents (they don't even know we've broken up). There is such pressure in my family to be successful (financially - I work non-profit) and have a family that I don't want to tell them. When I have told them about my issues with anxiety and depression they either blame it on my boyfriend (because he won't marry me - we weren't ready) or that I need to snap out of it. I can't handle trying to get them to understand right now because I know I will have to be on the defensive which is not where I want to be right now. My best friend and ex have provided the support I've needed so far, so I don't feel alone. I would just try to get through as much as you can and when you have the strength to talk to them about it, do it. I plan on talking with my family about it, I'm just not sure when.
Take care.
Amy
Tomorrow I will be finishing the first week of the program. So I am new as well. I know exactly how you feel and am struggling with it right now myself. I used to mentally beat myself up that I was lazy and that's why I never got all the things done that I needed to, especially paying bills (I have a fear of not having enough money after a period of time a couple of years ago when I overdrew on checking account several times and rang up a lot of money on my credit card - due to being in a job that didn't pay me enough money), eating healthy, going to the gym, and completely this program. I first bought this program three years ago, but it is only know that I am dedicated to doing it (I am doing the coaching program because I need someone to keep me on track).
My boyfriend of 8 years just broke up with me because he couldn't handle my insecurities and being tired all the time. Whenever he wanted to go out late at night I would be so tired to even think about it would make me cry. He just didn't get it and I didn't get it either until recently. I thought I was just not a night person anymore, but now I see that I am so tired because of my depression. I sleep, but when I wake up I feel like I haven't slept at all. Since starting the relaxation cd in the morning right after I wake up getting out of bed ahs been a lot easier. I might not have any more energy yet, but it has definitely helped me to physically get myself out of bed. I wasn't late to work one day this week, when I am usually at least 5-10 minutes late (if there isn't any traffic) because I just can't get out of bed.
I have talked a lot about this program with my ex, who is very supportive of it and my recovery, but refuse to tell my parents (they don't even know we've broken up). There is such pressure in my family to be successful (financially - I work non-profit) and have a family that I don't want to tell them. When I have told them about my issues with anxiety and depression they either blame it on my boyfriend (because he won't marry me - we weren't ready) or that I need to snap out of it. I can't handle trying to get them to understand right now because I know I will have to be on the defensive which is not where I want to be right now. My best friend and ex have provided the support I've needed so far, so I don't feel alone. I would just try to get through as much as you can and when you have the strength to talk to them about it, do it. I plan on talking with my family about it, I'm just not sure when.
Take care.
Amy