My city makes me upset.

MrCleveland · Post by **MrCleveland** » Sat May 30, 2009 4:27 pm

It seems that my city (Cleveland) always brings me down. From our sports teams that can't win to being #1 in everything negative.

I sometimes wish that this city I live in just...disappear. I'd like to move out, but that will happen when Cleveland wins a Championship...that means never.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun May 31, 2009 5:20 am

why cant u move? I am in a depressed community and cant move because of the father of my child. i also think moving out of this town would make me happier.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun May 31, 2009 6:54 am

Greetings!
There is usually no such thing as a "geopgraphic cure". (moving to solve life's problems).
You see , you take yourself along.
And the truth is that we make most of our problems.
There are very rare cases where a move might help. But as stated, this is very rare.

The best thing is to work on ourselves. On our reactions to circumstances, people and places, etc.
To do this we usually must change our thinking processes.
And we learn how to do this with the 'program'.
Sometimes we need to engage a therapist. It helps if we have a faith. Spiritual guidance is so often helpful.
There are many good books that will help us.
Many have been named on this forum.

Running is seldom beneficial.
Wishing each one of you success and happiness.
Whereever you are.
Blessings on all.
MJ

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Jun 01, 2009 6:02 am

mrcleveland, why not look for work outside of cleve3land pick places you research orhave heard about and might like. get the job first, then make the move. it is possible to move. jobs are tuff tho finding and you need one wherever you go. i have moved for my health and it was a good move. hard getting settled, monies etc. but i am glad i did not have to raise my kids alongside inlaws kids and have better health where i moved. somethings you might miss, some things where you move you might love. of course, you will still have to work this program maybe see a doctor and get to thinking better, but it is wonderful sometimes to make the move to a place you enjoy.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jun 02, 2009 3:22 pm

Originally posted by Laura Ingalls:
why cant u move? I am in a depressed community and cant move because of the father of my child. i also think moving out of this town would make me happier.

I have family here and I also have no money.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jun 02, 2009 5:19 pm

I agree with Cornflower. There was a short story in the material about how a bus driver was constantly asked about the city from visitors or people who moved in.

He would ask them how they liked their old town and and if they said they like it, he'd respond, "than you're going to love it here."

And if they would tell him that they hated where they came from he'd say, "oh, I don't think you'll like it here very much."

There's another saying a dear friend of mine always says:

BLOOM WHERE YOU ARE PLANTED

You see if you can't find joy in your circumstances, you are never going to find it elsewhere, it's also like the old saying "The grass is never greener on the other side"...you will always find something wrong or something to complain about wherever you go if you have that kind of outlook.

Change yourself, and the world changes with you.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jun 03, 2009 3:48 am

I agree with what most people have said here, but there are also situations that would be better if a change is made. I think it depends on what is making you unhappy where you live. If you live in a high crime area you would most probably be happier and have more peace of mind in an area that had a lower crime rate. If you are out of work you may feel more hopeful and motivated in an area that had more work opportunities. If what's making you unhappy is something inside yourself, then making changes in your outlook and how you view your world is essential. Figuring out if the cause of the unhappiness is external or internal is not easy, but most definitely worth the effort.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jun 03, 2009 4:23 am

I think there is a lot of give and take when you are thinking about location. If you are in a high crime rate it is easier to pay the bills, you might be more stressed out in a nicer neighborhood because you have to work harder to get the bills paid or keep up with the Smiths.

Also I think it would be beneficial for Mr. Cleveland to practice replacement thoughts. I'm wondering if Mr. Cleveland is even going through the program, as it very clearly talks about how life is not fair.

How you should lower your expectations and don't think that you always deserve something that you aren't getting.

Nobody said you are "owed" anything in this life and at least if you lower your expectations you will get great results, or at least be happier.

This whole program is about being happy and finding joy in any circumstance. There are people who went through the program with TERMINAL CANCER who are the most joy filled people you could meet. Imagine how someone with terminal cancer or someone who is literally starving to death would gladly trade situations with someone living in a city that has a doesn't win a championship.

Just to add, I think that for someone who is already happy and at peace with themselves, moving to a more desired situation would benefit them.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jun 03, 2009 5:36 am

Originally posted by MrCleveland:
Originally posted by Laura Ingalls:
why cant u move? I am in a depressed community and cant move because of the father of my child. i also think moving out of this town would make me happier.
I have family here and I also have no money.

I saw a news story, they followed a chap who moved to an entirely foreign city (foreign meaning an unknown city to him here in America), he had no friends or relatives and he had 20 bucks in his pocket. Guess what he did - he stayed in a mission until he got a job, for a mover, then saved up enough to buy a used car and then he got an apartment with someone.

So the question is, what is really holding you back? As long as you think positive and act positive you will go places.

If you really want to move, nothing is holding you back but you.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jun 03, 2009 8:02 pm

lol I know what you mean I live in Deerfield, which is like 40 min from Cleveland.. The city is really cursed.. Maybe the Indians can pull out a title this year? though its not looking good.. hah
Too bad about the cavs, I think that orlando is playing the best this post season and if the two best teams were chosen to play in the champs, It would be Magic and Cavs no doubt.

get better though man, I lived in lakewood for about a year.. i know how lame and depressing that area is..