I am a grandmother and I have had problems with depression for many years. I have an ache inside all the time. I have no ambition or motivation. Since I am a Christian I have feelings of guilt. I should not feel like I do because I have so many blessings. I have a low
self image because of my weight. I have lost weight only to gain it back. I have always been
an airhead. It seems like no matter how hard I try to do something right, I mess it up some way. I can't seem to get past all my failures.
Just depressed!
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NJ of WV,
Are you doing the program? So many of the things you mentioned are addressed here. I can identify with almost everything you've said. The lack of motivation, the faith issues, the self image and weight issues, the failures, all are a part of me and I struggle to let myself off the hook. But that's really what it's about. You are punishing yourself and turning your anger inward. If you haven't started the program, I'd strongly recommend it. I have tried everything, prayer, counseling, medication but nothing helped until I got down to the root cause of my depression, which was my thinking. I was beating myself mercilessly, every day. No wonder I was depressed. I'm now off the medication and doing well despite the challenges of life. The major change is my thinking. I've given myself enough grace to have a bad day or a percieved failure. I talk to myself now like I would talk to my best friend. So if you have started the program, the negative self-talk lesson (#3) will really be pivotal for you. Dig into the workbook and do the exercises like your life depends on it. And keep praying. God will give you more insight which is like turbo-charging the exercises.
Be kind to yourself in every way!
Are you doing the program? So many of the things you mentioned are addressed here. I can identify with almost everything you've said. The lack of motivation, the faith issues, the self image and weight issues, the failures, all are a part of me and I struggle to let myself off the hook. But that's really what it's about. You are punishing yourself and turning your anger inward. If you haven't started the program, I'd strongly recommend it. I have tried everything, prayer, counseling, medication but nothing helped until I got down to the root cause of my depression, which was my thinking. I was beating myself mercilessly, every day. No wonder I was depressed. I'm now off the medication and doing well despite the challenges of life. The major change is my thinking. I've given myself enough grace to have a bad day or a percieved failure. I talk to myself now like I would talk to my best friend. So if you have started the program, the negative self-talk lesson (#3) will really be pivotal for you. Dig into the workbook and do the exercises like your life depends on it. And keep praying. God will give you more insight which is like turbo-charging the exercises.
Be kind to yourself in every way!
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Guest
Hi NJ,
Even when our lives are full of blessings, it can be easy to overlook them--or worse, feel as though we don't deserve them--when anxiety and depression overtake us. Please try not to feel guilty about your emotions! I believe that God understands what all of us are going through, and does not expect us to be perfect. You are loved just as you are! Of course, it is still important to try to help yourself feel better (because you deserve to!), and by reaching out to this online community and doing the program, that's exactly what you're doing! I agree with New Nana--the self-talk lesson may be very helpful to you. Take good care of yourself!!
Even when our lives are full of blessings, it can be easy to overlook them--or worse, feel as though we don't deserve them--when anxiety and depression overtake us. Please try not to feel guilty about your emotions! I believe that God understands what all of us are going through, and does not expect us to be perfect. You are loved just as you are! Of course, it is still important to try to help yourself feel better (because you deserve to!), and by reaching out to this online community and doing the program, that's exactly what you're doing! I agree with New Nana--the self-talk lesson may be very helpful to you. Take good care of yourself!!
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Guest
Please don't give up. I had such depression in the last week. I am struggling with my weight too. I listened to lesson 3 twice, and changed my self talk to the positive and I feel 10 times better. I realized it was my thinking that did it to me. It was nothing in the external world that changed that would cause it, it was my old regular negative self-talk that caused me to be depressed. I just could not figure out what it was. Now that I have, I am making sure I check it everyday. I slip off the positive it seems, as I go along the lessons. I really need to focus on the hinge lesson that is Session 3. Take Care