Tough time

jlilangel · Post by **jlilangel** » Tue Jan 27, 2009 7:00 pm

I'm having a really hard time with lesson 4. I tried to write my should list, but I just blanked. I didn't even feel like I had any shoulds for a couple days and now I"m just not sure what I think. I"ve been on the brink of a panic attack most of the night, and I got so depressed for a couple of hours, it really scared me. I feel like I've fallen back into the hole I was crawling out of. I want to dust myself off and start crawling out again, but at the moment I'm just not sure how.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Jan 31, 2009 5:56 am

I know exactly how you feel. Session 4 was tough for me too. Chances are there are some shoulds somewhere. Maybe try to think back to a time when you were feeling particularly anxious and there are probably some shoulds in there somewhere. I also go a few days without "should" thinking but I know in my life as a whole I have had plenty! I hope this makes sense. Maybe try to think of it that way. Take care!!!

derfy · Post by **derfy** » Sat Feb 14, 2009 8:02 am

jlilangel

You are on session four, what an accomplishment you are an inspiration to me.

My main "shoulds" are at other people in my life. When I really started listening to my inner mind talk I mean really the floodgates opened up and I noticed that my shoulds were everywhere. Not only did I should myself but also my friends, family and just about everyone I came in contact with. This person should act like this or I should of said that. My children should be like this. This causes soo much anxiety. I found that just by noticing it is a relief and helps. Try to realy pay attention to yourself