. I usually will gravitate away from them if in a crowd of people or if I am in a store I KNOW that my exposure time with them is isolated in that store and most likely I will never see the jerk again so why should I allow them to leave a lasting impression on me? These people come in and end up outta my hair as quickly as they came in. 
They have no personal meaning in my life, I will not have close interaction with them. Like in one of the lessons, the guy that was treated badly by someone. Well HE was thinking about that person, but that person that mistreated him is LONG gone and most likely not even thinking about him or what happened. It does not good to hang on to things. People will be jerks, that is fact. We also have the ability to NOT allow these people to get to us. I see plenty of them at the store. Those that are yacking on their cell phone at the grocery check out while the line is growing longer and more impatient as the cashier is waiting for payment...the person that blows their gasket over a pricing error (hello! the cashier is NOT responsible for it, take it over to the customer service desk and just get your quarter back!) On the roads, I have had minivan moms honk at me and give me a "finger up" because I was not driving fast enough. (she has a minivan full of kids speeding down the road at 65 mph in a 50 zone! Mind you I am doing about 55.) I also LOVE some that drive in and out of our church... it is like funny car races when some pull out of the parking spaces out and gets to be almost demolishion derby like with people cutting other people off to get into a line of cars literally going nowhere because of the stop light. (we usually wait 15 minutes after service as all the race drivers have left the lot)
I saw a woman treat a coffee barrista like the poor girl was her personal coffee chef...one and a half sweet and lows, out about a 1/3 cup of skim and 1/3 cup whole milk, stir it like "this", blah, blah, blah. It was not what that woman said, but HOW she said it...it was very condescending. I am not sure what made the woman think she was better than the girl making her coffee, but I think the only thing that separated the 2 was is that the woman is married to someone that can support her lifestyle of not working (the woman had a honking HUGE engagement /wedding band set along with other pieces of jewerly, designer sunglass and handbag) and the coffee barrista was supporting herself and probably putting herself through college. (as a matter of fact, she attends the college where I go)
So I have to agree with Fishcee on these types. This woman clearly appeared to be a poor mannered narcissist that probably feels inadequate, insecure and inferior. All that glitz justifies her and her poor manners or maybe she feels she in entitles to be that way? Maybe she is not even aware she is being poor mannered? Whatever the case these people are in and out so quick there is NO reason to allow these types of leave such a lasting impression. NO reason.
I have someone in my extended family that is is way. She used to get under my skin. I used to have to pop klonopin like candy when she was over. She shows NO respect for my or my husband. I will be cordial to her, I will not nit pick with her, but I will tell her when she has gone far enough. (she slams others but fails to acknowledge she and her family have had the SAME shortcomings. We all are NOT perfect regardless how good she thinks she is and THAT is what I toss back at her to have her put her foot in her mouth.) That usually will shut her down
. My husband does not like conflict (who does?) but I am tired when she goes too far. Some things I can let go because her opinion of me does not matter anymore (I have no respect for her so what do I care what she thinks? The reason I have no respect for her is because of the things she has said and done and the things she continues to do. I can forgive, but she keeps doing the same thing. I keep her at arms length.)She has a tendency to be overly critical about everyone while she boasts about ALL the great things she has been doing, all the fancy people she knows, the luncheons, etc. She devalues other people for who they are, what they do, their life choices, their ethic background, makes people feel uncomfortable, inferior and builds herself up while she tears others down.(can we say narcissist?) She also is VERY controlling and usually it is HER way or NO way. She has alienated her kids, other family, grandkids, most everyone around. When she was in the hospital, one would expect with all the people she knows and talks about all the time, the room would have been filled with cards, balloons, flowers and even visitors. Well besides family, 2 other people came. Guess she is not as "important" as she makes herself out to be. She has made it know that when she was little, back when the war was going on, she was called a "good for nothing gypsy". To this day she it trying to justify that she is better than that 6-7 year old "good for nothing gypsy" walking the streets begging for food and money.I now understand WHY she is this way and do not let her actions bother me. I still do not respect her for treating people the way she does and also accept I will not change her. She is what she is, she is a family member that I need to keep at a distance and that is just the way it is. No more anxiety. I see that I do not need to impress her, live up to her expectations, live as she lives. If she does not accept me for me, that is NOT my problem and I know I can't change that. I still can live my life knowing that I really AM a good person regardless what she thinks.