Backslide! Just when I thought I new it all, please comment

calmseeker · Post by **calmseeker** » Tue Feb 17, 2009 2:13 pm

there I was doing the program got through session 3 and now on to four and was doing pretty good. I felt I mastered some of the skills and then boom! I had an anxiety attack! I was being approached by a intelligent person I broke out in a cold sweat turned red and started stumbling my words. I don't know why I get this way maybe deep feelings of infiriority? I'm not sure I mean I feel I am intelligent enough but why does this bother me so much?

I did use the 6 steps and that helped but man I am kinda dissapointed in myself that I reacted that way. Any comments? advice?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Mar 06, 2009 11:30 am

Calmseeker; Don't dwell on one negative incident. I have made it all the way thru the program and still have some symptoms at times, but it's getting better each day. I have started the program over to see what I missed the first time. I do the same with informational books. I am finding things I didn't undersdtand the first time through. We aren't perfect or we wouldn't need this program. Remember session 3 and reassure yourself with positive self talk that you have learned new tools to cope with anxiety. Pat yourself on the back for remembering to use the 6 steps. That isn't always easy at first. You are making progress and you will continue to do so. It took a while to get good at being anxious and it will take a while to learn new habbits that will stop the negative thoughts. good luck and God bless in your continued efforts with attacking and depression, Bradley.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat May 23, 2009 2:22 pm

Originally posted by calmseeker:
there I was doing the program got through session 3 and now on to four and was doing pretty good. I felt I mastered some of the skills and then boom! I had an anxiety attack! I was being approached by a intelligent person I broke out in a cold sweat turned red and started stumbling my words. I don't know why I get this way maybe deep feelings of infiriority? I'm not sure I mean I feel I am intelligent enough but why does this bother me so much?

I did use the 6 steps and that helped but man I am kinda dissapointed in myself that I reacted that way. Any comments? advice?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat May 23, 2009 2:34 pm

Sorry - posted earlier with nothing on it

Calmseeker, I saw your post labeled "thought I knew it all, and now...."and laughed to (and at) myself.
I, too, believed I have "figured" stuff out. Or, more honestly, believed I SHOULD have ...This program reminds me that I am always learning...and staying open is more effective than my old rigid, shoulda, coulda, perfectionist ways.
When I stay open I find that my anxiety lessens .... but, boy, anxiety has been my method of survival for a long time and it still comes back to visit. When my anxiety comes up I say to myself, "Just thoughts, that's all they are, just thoughts..." That seems to calm me down enough and then later I tell myself what a good job I did (coping, not saying anything, moving past the fear, what have you...)
Long and short? You did well, Calmseeker, you noticed the anxiety , instead of letting it take over....

forever young 06 · Post by **forever young 06** » Sun May 24, 2009 12:16 pm

If at first you don't succeed..try, try again. Failure is not failing, it is when we stop trying.
I use to think I wanted to be a person who never made any mistakes, but when I see people who do not think they have ever or could ever make a mistake..I realize I would never want to be like them...because they are really the ones who are not in touch with reality. They are the ones who make real life people feel not normal..hey it's not us....it's them. Have you ever lived or worked with someone who could never see or admit they were ever wrong?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon May 25, 2009 7:10 am

Gail, you've just described my mother-in-law! Thanks for reminding me that the "trying" is the important thing.