As a veteran, I have discovered Session Three skills keep me from slipping and sliding backwards when life gets tough. And guess what. Life is tough. I want to share a fun website which has a few simple exercises. You will discover these easy self-evaluation tasks take you right back to Session Three skills.
Here is the website (though neither as good nor as thorough as Session Three, "the work" exemplifies why you want to keep using your self talk skills forever.)
<A HREF="http://www.thework.com/thework.asp" TARGET=_blank>http://www.thework.com/thework.asp</A>
Why Session Three is the Key.
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Guest
I have discovered the lessons in Session 3 in many of other resources I've read...books, articles, etc. In fact, I just bought one of those desk Page-A-Day calendars about the book "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People." The very first page (Jan 1) says:
"If we want to change a situation, we first have to change ourselves. And to change ourselves effectively, we first have to change our perceptions."
"If we want to change a situation, we first have to change ourselves. And to change ourselves effectively, we first have to change our perceptions."
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lHi Pecos.
I clicked on that link and I agree with the intoduction. But then the negatives to positives that they had were full of crap. For example: "Paul shoulnt shout at me" turn it around:
"Paul should shout at me" turn it around:I shoulnt shout at Paul" turn it around: "I should shout at me".
Maybe Paul is a jerk and I should shout at Paul. Why did he make every example Come out to be the victim's fault. Maybe the problem is Paul and not me. You don't always take the place of victim. That only creates guilt, not peace of mind. I would be one guilty person if that was how I turned my negatives to positives.
I clicked on that link and I agree with the intoduction. But then the negatives to positives that they had were full of crap. For example: "Paul shoulnt shout at me" turn it around:
"Paul should shout at me" turn it around:I shoulnt shout at Paul" turn it around: "I should shout at me".
Maybe Paul is a jerk and I should shout at Paul. Why did he make every example Come out to be the victim's fault. Maybe the problem is Paul and not me. You don't always take the place of victim. That only creates guilt, not peace of mind. I would be one guilty person if that was how I turned my negatives to positives.
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Hi missgsr and deedee. That is why I pointed out Session Three is more helpful. But, I wanted to share the website as an exercise tool. It really teaches us how useful Session Three skills are, and will be, all of our lives.
Last edited by pecos on Wed Dec 31, 2008 1:27 pm, edited 1 time in total.
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Guest
Hi Pecos.
I get what you're saying but I had to point that out because people with anxiety and deperession either tend to be way too agressive or way too passive and it's so easy for a passive person to buy into his examples and end up thinking they are wrong all of the time. Which in turn brings on so much guilt, one of the things that causes anxiety and depression in the first place.
Pecos, I also do agree with you that chapter 3 is the most important! If we all had great self asterm and positive thinking we woulnt be dealing with this at all.
I get what you're saying but I had to point that out because people with anxiety and deperession either tend to be way too agressive or way too passive and it's so easy for a passive person to buy into his examples and end up thinking they are wrong all of the time. Which in turn brings on so much guilt, one of the things that causes anxiety and depression in the first place.
Pecos, I also do agree with you that chapter 3 is the most important! If we all had great self asterm and positive thinking we woulnt be dealing with this at all.