need help when others aren't as positive

Kaytbee · Post by **Kaytbee** » Thu Aug 12, 2010 8:10 pm

I am having a hard time trying to be more positive when others tell me all the things I'm doing wrong or when there is negativity among others around me. When others give me input or criticism I many times go right into a hole of depression that I can't get out of. I am often certain that what they say is true, so how do I handle this? I don't want to hate myself anymore. I end up getting all angry at the person who gave me criticism. That doesn't help at all.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Aug 13, 2010 6:25 pm

It's sounds like your suggestive to what other people say about you. That is a part of anxiety. If other people can't understand how you feel and critcize you then they need to backoff. You have to think of yourself and not them.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Aug 22, 2010 5:37 pm

When you get further along in the program there is a lesson about being assertive....this will help you to stand up to those people and tell them to stop.

In the mean time, part of this disorder is that we worry too much what others think. So, keep practicing not caring what others think or say about you. It takes time and a lot of practice, but take heart, it will become easier.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Aug 23, 2010 9:44 am

I don't know how to be assertive.. I have a difficult time loving myself.. I have had some men in my life that hurt me alot. I think to myself why did I allow this to go for so long.. I also care about what people think.. My mother is extremely controlling. I want to be close to her but she overwhelms me.. I called her today and she said nothing on the phone..I didn't take her call over the weekend and now she is being so cold.. I want freedom!! freedom not to care about what people think..I am a good person and I always get perceived that I don't do enough.. I am dating a guy and he is ruthless I have tried to just stop contact but he finds a way to trigger me and upset me alot!! any advise..