Hi,
I am in session three. I am receiving assistance once a week from a life coach as well as a bi-weekly therapist and a once a month physciatrist. I have had to detach from my family and old friends because they were all negative. I have recently joined several meetup groups to get out of the house and make new friends to build a positive support group for myself and I am nervous most of the time but have started to have a little fun. My husband tries to be positive and supportive but it is not consistant. It seems like every time I start to get better he becomes Mr. negative and brings me down. My physciatrist and therapist think that maybe he likes me being sick and dependent. Anyone else have this problem?
No positive support group
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Well, husbands, are human too, and it is hard for them to change their behaviors as well. They are use to the old you and do get threatened when the old you is changing. They don't know what to do. I'm meeting with my new Psychologist in a couple days w/DH and hopefully we can get a few things figured out. He came from a family that is more sarcastic and dramatic, so he will exaggerate something I said to make it seem worse than it was, either because it took the wrong way, or he needs to grow himself.
My Dr told me that I'm probably not going to change him too much, we've been married a long time, and he is just the person he is with a personality that doesn't like confrontation or discussion. They didn't do that in his family, so the way they expressed themselves was either a slide comment or negative. They didn't have family discussions and ask eachother their opinion on things or have meetings about household chores, etc. as the way I was brought up.
So it has been a struggle blending our personalities, and now that I'm older and my baby is over 19. I don't want the same way of doing things. I'm tired and I'm speaking up more than I use to in the past, so I'm getting some response to that behavior or how I'm changing the way I react to things.
My Dr told me that I'm probably not going to change him too much, we've been married a long time, and he is just the person he is with a personality that doesn't like confrontation or discussion. They didn't do that in his family, so the way they expressed themselves was either a slide comment or negative. They didn't have family discussions and ask eachother their opinion on things or have meetings about household chores, etc. as the way I was brought up.
So it has been a struggle blending our personalities, and now that I'm older and my baby is over 19. I don't want the same way of doing things. I'm tired and I'm speaking up more than I use to in the past, so I'm getting some response to that behavior or how I'm changing the way I react to things.