This is a common thing, yet it's so difficult.

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Wondersofthesea
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Post by Wondersofthesea » Fri Feb 20, 2009 10:44 pm

Hello everyone,
I've noticed that many people have said that session 3 of the program is so difficult for them because of the changing the negitive to positive. I'm the same way as well, and I am trying but it's just so hard. When I finally do realize that my mind is being negitive to myself, I'm supose to come up with this long thought out sentense that makes no sense what so ever. How does that help me?
For example: I'm worried about the healing of my right ear, because for 21 years of my life it hasn't been fixed.
Now for the positive statement would be something like: You're fine! You don't need to worry about it because right now it's healing up nicely. Pretty soon you'll be back to normal.

Yeah...no, not really. That's exactly what I would tell myself before, or have other people tell me and guess what? They and myself were wrong! Months later the healing would take a turn for the worse and it'd be back to square one all over again. So, yeah this positive thing isn't all that easy to handle. Also I don't really pay that much attention to my mind because it wonders all over the place. I'm pretty sure not many people can do what I can with my mind, but I have the ability to dream while I'm awake. Also when I'm asleep and am dreaming, I remember everything that I dreampt about and I can control my dreams. Many people I've talked to tell me that they can't even remember their dreams at all let alone control them, and that their lives are so busy during the day they don't have any time at all to let it wonder. So the part where I'm supose to write down every negitive thought kind of is stuck on the back burner, so to speak.

Someone meantioned that there was this book that had some positive sentenses you could apply to yourself when you need them. Is there such a book out there? Would that even apply to me? I'm kind of thinking of forgetting this session and moving on to the others. :?

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Post by Guest » Sun Feb 22, 2009 3:44 am

Hi,
I know alot of folks are having the same problems turning neg into pos. We have been punishing ourself with neg talk for most of our lives ,its going to take alot of practice and for some a lot of time to change these bad habits.I am encouraged for you ecspecially.You have been gifted with the ability to change the path of your dreams ,that tells me you have the strengh to change the patterns of your neg talk. Keep practicing and give it much time as you need, you deserve this and you will do it,even if it takes more time and practice then you would hope for.

Knowledge is power!

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Post by Guest » Tue Mar 17, 2009 10:31 am

Hi Wondersoft,
Sorry to hear about the ear problem...If this is actually a physical condition, then it needs to be checked out...I would call this a rational fear, but, instead of worrying about it..You may want to have it checked out...Worrying doesn't change anything....Become action-oriented...So, I suggest that the next time this negative thought comes into your mind...replace it with a positive one...such as, I choose not to think about that right now, unless you are planning on going to the doctor, right now...Schedule a worry time..Say...I will worry about this at 12 tomorrow..Every time that negative thought comes back...say this...More than likely at 12 tomorrow, you will be doing something else, and that worry probably will not even enter into your mind...Remember, there are realistic fears and unrealistic fears...If this is a realistic fear, then I would take action to get it taken care of...No need of worrying...Worrying never changes anything...It just depletes us of our precious present moment....I pray that this helped to console you....God Bless!!!!

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