Letting go op the past
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Guest
Hi Prosim,
How do you feel about just forgiving yourself? Did you not take the opportunities because of your anxiety? I think we all have lost opportunities... but when our anxiety is gone, isn't it so much easier to take the opportunity and enjoy it? For me, just being able to go to a dinner without worrying that I'm going to run out of there, not like it, feel uncomfortable, etc. feels like taking an opportunity:) Just to be able to look forward to things again. I'm happy with the small things now I think. I know why I lost the opportunities, because I had anxiety and I was scared, and I didn't know better then. How could I beat myself up for it when I know how scared I was. I didn't have the tools then, now I do.
Anyway, did I get your question right? Maybe you meant something totally different? Let me know.
Best,
H
How do you feel about just forgiving yourself? Did you not take the opportunities because of your anxiety? I think we all have lost opportunities... but when our anxiety is gone, isn't it so much easier to take the opportunity and enjoy it? For me, just being able to go to a dinner without worrying that I'm going to run out of there, not like it, feel uncomfortable, etc. feels like taking an opportunity:) Just to be able to look forward to things again. I'm happy with the small things now I think. I know why I lost the opportunities, because I had anxiety and I was scared, and I didn't know better then. How could I beat myself up for it when I know how scared I was. I didn't have the tools then, now I do.
Anyway, did I get your question right? Maybe you meant something totally different? Let me know.
Best,
H
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Guest
When you know you are doing your very best within the circumstances of your existence, applaud yourself !
- Rusty Berkus
This is the quote from Lesson 11. It reminds me of what my husband says to be so often when I fret over lost opportunities. "You did the best you could with the information you had, given your condition at the time." He's right.
So do forgive yourself and realize that you have new opportunities each day!
- Rusty Berkus
This is the quote from Lesson 11. It reminds me of what my husband says to be so often when I fret over lost opportunities. "You did the best you could with the information you had, given your condition at the time." He's right.
So do forgive yourself and realize that you have new opportunities each day!
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Guest
Hi Prosim,
There is an expression that seems applicable in this situation. Have you ever heard: It is what it is
basically, that expression is used to indicate that there is little you can do about it so accept it and move on.
Rehashing what was, or could have been, only leads to churning up of anxiety, not even about the object of the attention, but what if thinking that leads to more circular thinking that just makes you sick from the new stress and anxiety you bring on with your thinking.
That's life. It can be real tough at times.
Now answer this truthfully, What can you do about any of it? Probably not, or pretty much nothing because, the moment is past. It is what is in the now. You can accept things for what they were or are and move on or you can continue to rehash and churn. It is really up to you, and you alone to decide which it will be.
I will say a little prayer for you, if it is okay with you, and hold out the hope that you can find a way to put the thoughts of the past behind you and move on to live the precious moments that this wonderful life we have been granted the privilege to have.
Tc and Hugs,
In His Love,
Gman5256
There is an expression that seems applicable in this situation. Have you ever heard: It is what it is
basically, that expression is used to indicate that there is little you can do about it so accept it and move on.
Rehashing what was, or could have been, only leads to churning up of anxiety, not even about the object of the attention, but what if thinking that leads to more circular thinking that just makes you sick from the new stress and anxiety you bring on with your thinking.
That's life. It can be real tough at times.
Now answer this truthfully, What can you do about any of it? Probably not, or pretty much nothing because, the moment is past. It is what is in the now. You can accept things for what they were or are and move on or you can continue to rehash and churn. It is really up to you, and you alone to decide which it will be.
I will say a little prayer for you, if it is okay with you, and hold out the hope that you can find a way to put the thoughts of the past behind you and move on to live the precious moments that this wonderful life we have been granted the privilege to have.
Tc and Hugs,
In His Love,
Gman5256
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Guest
Prosim,
I am not sure if this is right but, I have always been made to worry and fix problems so, in my adult life that never changed and going through this program has taught me I am good at telling others to let it go,It will be okay, it's only a mistake, you learn from your mistakes, etc.. But it is very hard to pratice what you preach. Deep down I know I am a good person it is just so damn hard to bring it up to the top and beleive it.
I am not sure if this is right but, I have always been made to worry and fix problems so, in my adult life that never changed and going through this program has taught me I am good at telling others to let it go,It will be okay, it's only a mistake, you learn from your mistakes, etc.. But it is very hard to pratice what you preach. Deep down I know I am a good person it is just so damn hard to bring it up to the top and beleive it.