Don't believe positive side

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Oct 13, 2009 2:39 pm

I had a good day on the way home. At the suggestion of a friend I took the relaxation tape with me in the car. It's only a tiny short trip but it was making me so anxious, I had the tool I needed to relax and distract myself in the car at a red light for the 2 minutes or so and it was A OK. I cleaned out my purse and before I knew it It was Green and I was off on my way.
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Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Oct 14, 2009 8:37 am

Missbsessive,

I sure can relate. I've been through the program twice and still find myself slipping into the old "negative" thought patterns. It's important, I think, to make the positive affirmations reasonable and realistic and to keep diligently practicing this skill. Even if you don't fully believe it, sometimes you just have to fake it till you make it!

Best of Luck

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Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jan 12, 2010 8:28 am

oh i can totally relate to what you are saying, and i believe that believe it or not ..the negative is so much easier..for some reason because of our world the negative just seems to be the thing to do..everything is truthfully negative..sin has made it that way. just like when you clean your house..oh my gosh, before you know it, its a mess..this is how life is..its because of sin..nothing is easy that is worthwhile and its extrememly easy to be negative..so when we realize negative is easier than we understand why it is so hard to believe in positive. but what i do believe is that when i start to write the postive after my negative, that it lifts me out of a downword way of thinking..i can actually feel it lifting me up..negative thoughts pull you down and give no hope..positive thoughts lift you up and give you hope. it helps you to see that there is a way out..it takes you out of the realm of the negative. remember, it is natural to be negative..it takes work to be positive..but i believe that even though it is so hard for us to believe it now..that with practice we will see how it will truly kick in and become easier. its all in believing when it seems impossible..

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jan 13, 2010 6:53 am

I am having a really hard time with the positive. I have been hurt and dealt with being told so many negative things that I feel if I tell myself diff. then I am being fake. Does this make since? I just have had such low self esteem and I assume self worth. I want change so bad and am so tired of feeling so down and sad. What am I not doing right? I have read through so many posts and have seen where the program has helped so many and I hope to be as lucky. This is draining.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Jan 14, 2010 11:21 am

Hi ali04. You are wondering what you aren't doing right, and your answer is right there in your wondering. Believe in yourself, and believe that you are not the sum of what anyone else says. You mention all the times you've been hurt after someone told you negative things about you. Why do you give anyone that kind of power over you? If you are still doubting your worth, and you have already completed this program, I do strongly urge you to go back and start at the beginning and work it again. I'd add one thing. Every morning when you get up, look in the mirror and tell yourself that you really are the boss of you. What you tell yourself is what will help you, or keep you stuck. This program will gradually, slowly, help you take your thoughts back and make them your own. I know it is draining. But it took a long time to get where you are, and it really is worth fifteen weeks to turn all that unhappy, uncomfortable, self defeating self-talk around and make it work for you. I wish you the best.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Jan 15, 2010 3:22 am

Thanks Pecos. You are absolutely right. I have gone over my old posts and have felt the same in almost all of them. I need to take charge and do exactly what you have said. I have never completed the program. I am having a hard time staying focused on it but really have no excuses since I am home during the day while my kids are at school. I am hoping this time to stick with it and learn and use the tools. I have heard and fed myself with negative for so many years that I know it will take some time but I want this. I want to be happy and positive and fun to be around. I can't thank you enough for the encouragement and push to get me started on the right track. Now it is just up to me to establish a routine and stay focused and committed to it. Any advice you have I will be up for. Thanks again and I am so glad you are doing so well. Have you had to go through the program again?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Jan 15, 2010 4:44 am

Hi ali04. You are certainly welcome. I received such an abundance of help and encouragement when I worked the program. I have gone back since completing it (in autumn '08) and refreshed whenever I sensed those old foggy feelings rising up again. You can do this. One CD at a time, grab your notebooks, do some homework each week. I don't visit the forum often, but I will always be here for you to offer encouragement, and help you with the hoorays when you finish the program.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Jan 16, 2010 7:55 am

Hi ali04. I know what you mean. I quit doing the program due to i can't get past the negative self-hate thoughts. I quit and give up at this
point. Now i decided to start again and hopefully i can not give up. i don' have any support at home-especially those who messed me up so badly and is why i'm at where i'm. I constantly cry when i'm trying to say outloud and even in my mind and is the reason i quit another job. I'm feeling so alone yet i'm not physically alone. i'm just so good at hiding it just like in the past. well, i hope things get better for you-but, again i can relate to what your saying big time. keep trying and keep practicing which is what i'm doing now. If i have to cry i guess that's ok. it's probably of all the pain of a painful past that needs to get out. Take care. Jupiter7