Acceptance is the key

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Jan 25, 2010 8:37 am

Thank you for the posts, I hadn't realized people responded to this.

Valeria83
I feel spacy from the time i wake up to the time i fall asleep. I have had this feeling start to lift but it took alot of time with relaxation and acceptance. It can lift if you accept and float.

Thank you rose_thorn98 I glad that you think I give great advice.

SavannahJo

Yes there are definately triggers when it comes to anxiety but that isn't always the case. With generalized anxiety it is just always there which is the main type that i'm dealing with right now. But you're right if we can eliminate a trigger (like talking to someone) then we can elminate the anxiety that goes with it. I had alot of anxiety when it came to doing Kareoke and it's mostly gone now and Kareoke is one of my favorate things to do now.

Mike

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Feb 09, 2010 2:07 pm

I know acceptance is the key but how do I accept it? Im trying to tell myself "its ok that Im anxious, its ok that I have anxiety"...will this help? When will my thoughts start to change and will I actually accept...so hard to change whats engrained in your head..

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Feb 09, 2010 3:10 pm

Acceptance isn't easy is it? The first step is to recognize that it is just anxiety that you are feeling. Then you give yourself that permission to have it. The statement you put up there is alright but it is very difficult to believe. You can try it the way i'm doing it which is the mindfulness way. You say ok i'm having anxiety and then you bring your attention to your breath. You may have to bring your attention back to your breath several times but eventually you become so focused on the breath that you let go of the anxiety because your focus is not there anymore.

Acceptance means to make room and allow anxiety to be present and then to put your attention elsewhere. Like you said it's hard to change whats engrained in your head...it takes time and you'll have to make small steps in order to do so.

If you are more inclined to do it the way the program suggests well then you can say ok it's anxiety that i'm feeling and nothing more. If you can find a reason why you are having it (ie you attempted to drive but haven't drove in years), then you remind yourself that this is why you are having the anxiety and that's normal. Incorporate the breathing into it and maybe tensing your fists. You may have to do the breathing exercises for a few minutes and thats ok.

I hope that helps,

Mike

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Feb 09, 2010 4:29 pm

Ok so I should just continue to when I get anxiety attacks or anxiety symptoms, I should just keep focusing on my breathing and tell myself its ok? How long until you think Ill start to notice a difference?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Feb 12, 2010 9:56 am

yeah thats exactly what will help you get better. As for how long, i'm not completely sure as it is diffrent for everybody. The level of anxiety is diffrent, the level of acceptance is going to be diffrent. This isn't something i can give you a definate answer for. sorry.

Mike

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Feb 12, 2010 1:02 pm

Thanks Mike, someone once told me that life is not "about wanting, but about accepting." I've seen a few of your other posts and like what you have had to say.

"No one ever plowed a field by turning it over in their mind."

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri Feb 12, 2010 2:06 pm

Hey Mike great post.

I still find myself struggling with acceptance. As you say in the post, its about the breathe and floating through the uncomfortable stuff.
Concentrating on the breathe.

Thank you for the reminder.
Take care and God Bless.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Feb 13, 2010 6:19 am

i'm also still struggling with acceptance myself. It isn't easy to accept something so scary. Acceptance might be key but keep in mind it is still important to have the positive self talk too...My error is that i was doing the breathing and accepting but i kept saying that it would last forever and so i kept it alive.

Mike

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Feb 22, 2010 7:32 am

hey everyone. im on day 2 of session 3. i too get the bewilderment from time to time thru the day and i have inner nervousness upon waking and depending how i talk to myself it will or wont last thru the day.
i feel anxiety now just in general. somethings make it worse. but i have the GAD they call it.
built up stress i guess or disapointment who knows why.
i am happy with the program and hope that it will continue to help me. i love the tapes and hearing the ppl laugh and talk about it now.knowing alot of them had my symptons and maybe some even worse.and are healed now. Thats the positive.
im also seeing a therapist and i am into the Bible and prayer.
so im hopefull...
Good Luck everyone.
Natalie