Acceptance (Interactive)....Very Important...Please read

Daniece · Post by **Daniece** » Sat Aug 30, 2008 8:19 am

I am taking session 3 over again rather than continue on to session 4. It's not that I am trying to get it perfect(no such thing)...it's that I thought it was a difficult session and they say it is the most important. First time around, I did not write down all of my negative thoughts(I wondered how I could do that while out in public) but I am going to try to do better this week. I also did not journal like it said to do. Hopefully, I can learn better how to control my thoughts after taking this session again this week. Good luck to all!

NinjaFrodo · Post by **NinjaFrodo** » Sat Aug 30, 2008 5:17 pm

Mary
Yes these insights are coming up like fire from an oil-can. I'm glad i've gone through the program a few times as well...it took me 4 years to realize about Acceptance. Like you, I'm seeing more progress in myself this time around.

CindyRu
There really is alot of information and some things resonate in our hearts the first time around and then diffrent things the next time and so on...this is what i found...And as for the impatient thing...Its only normal to feel this way...you've had anxiety and depression for awhile i'm assuming as people rarely pick up the program after their first anxiety attack...and anxiety and depression has stayed waaaaay beyond its welcomed time and you want it to go away. As long as you continue to make effort, you will get closer and closer to being who you want to be and leaving the fear of anxiety far behind you.

Daniece
Yes I was kind of like this myself...I would journal somewhat here and there and i would write down a few things but it didn't help so much because i didn't do it on a consistent basis. It really really really is important if you want to get over anxiety. I don't blame you that you aren't as keen on doing those things because it is enough effort to even have this issue and it drains us and leaves us with less effort in us...but i promise you that if you can stick with the assignments...you'll be able to handle the problem easier...Now you don't have to write down all of your negative thoughts...that would be sooooo overwhelming...I mean to write down like 300 (the average according to lesson 3 cd). Instead take 5 of the most trouble some ones and work through those on paper...typically when it comes down to it...we are being negative about the same few things with our thoughts but we are being really creative and with these thoughts and it seems like they're diffrent.

Journaling is very very important as this is what shows you your progress...don't you want to read how you've been changing throughout the program? How about when you reach that turning point or when you conquered that limitation and how it made you feel?

However i would not expect to be 100% or even 70% better after redoing lesson 3 again...it takes time and effort but thats ok...you would benefit alot from continuing to replace 5 negative thoughts on paper a day and journalling...For myself, I'm actually finding that i'm starting to replace other people's negativity all automatically and accepting myself mroe automatically and why i have limitations....the thought replacement dare i say, is actually "fun". Why...because I get excited to know that i'll be taking myself from feeling crappy to feeling better and knowing that this is a big accomplishment. There are even some days where i decide that i'm going to go out to some grassy hill area and replace as many negative thoughts I can...Soooo helpful.

Neways I'm sure you will do great no matter what and I'm always here if you need me.

Mike

Coach_Pete · Post by **Coach_Pete** » Sat Aug 30, 2008 6:41 pm

I believe my faith is everything! Without faith, I would still be sick. Why do you think there is separation of church and state?

My three biggest priorities: are faith, family and friends. I am happy today is Sunday; I can go to church with the family.

I accept my mental illness and I accept God into my life. He has definitely put mysteries into my life and I better understand them with Him in my life!

God is great and he has made a remarkable Earth; we are in his likeness; that is powerful!

Genesis tells it all. It is repetitive because He wants you to believe in His power!!! Without believing, I feel I would still be sick. With God in my life, I can do anything.

Peter

NinjaFrodo · Post by **NinjaFrodo** » Sun Aug 31, 2008 1:10 am

Faith is really important too. Faith in what you're doing is going to help you and faith that there is a higher power who wants the best for you can really help to get you through issues in your life

The only thing i'd like to comment on is how you described anxiety and depression as a mental illness. These aren't mental illnesses, you aren't sick...you're just thinking in a way that takes away your power and gives you the fight/flight symptoms.

Mike

NinjaFrodo · Post by **NinjaFrodo** » Sun Aug 31, 2008 1:39 pm

So I've come to another Acceptance thing.

I caught myself saying...well once my anxiety and depression go away, then i'll be able to do this. Holy crap!! If thats not a sign of perfectionism, i don't know what is. This however is normal for someone suffering with anxiety. I don't like taking risks because I don't like the idea of embarassing myself if i don't do it right. Thats fine...so is embarassing myself. It isn't going to make me any less of a person and when it all comes down to it, I've made an effort. The only way to succeed in life or in our goals rather..is if we try. This doesn't mean we need to try on days where we feel extremely low. No, we pick days where we are feeling alright and not rushing to do this or that or having alot of things going on and we do them those days. If I need to work on my worry-some thoughts then i can do that on paper...not a big deal.

Mike

NinjaFrodo · Post by **NinjaFrodo** » Mon Sep 01, 2008 5:20 am

by the way i'm going to be moving in a few and won't have net for a little while...if you need to get ahold of me you can email me at sintaries@hotmail.com

Mike

MC Grace · Post by **MC Grace** » Tue Sep 02, 2008 10:09 am

This however is normal for someone suffering with anxiety. I don't like taking risks because I don't like the idea of embarassing myself if i don't do it right. Thats fine...so is embarassing myself. It isn't going to make me any less of a person and when it all comes down to it, I've made an effort. The only way to succeed in life or in our goals rather..is if we try. This doesn't mean we need to try on days where we feel extremely low. No, we pick days where we are feeling alright and not rushing to do this or that or having alot of things going on and we do them those days.

"Hear! Hear!"

NinjaFrodo · Post by **NinjaFrodo** » Tue Sep 09, 2008 3:55 am

Ok i am back to the thread. Recently i went through lesson 6 or the anger lesson and i had been in the process of moving to another apt and so i didn't do as much self help as i did before hand and i find myself slipping back into my old habit so here i am again with acceptance.

Of course i haven't been able to do as much as i would have liked to or planned to because look at everything i had to do within the last week. I had alot of packing and moving and then work ontop of this and so it is only normal for this to happen. I may not have done all that i had planned to do (and yes it was planned not expected), but i still did do a few things like thought replacement on paper, listening to the lesson cds, journaling, eatting healthy and working with the relaxation cd every once in awhile and I'm proud of myself because any effort i make is going to make me that much closer to getting me to my goal of being that person i want to be. It isn't reasonable to think that if i don't do things 100% that i won't make it to my goals. Any and every attempt will bring me closer and closer.

Mike

Oh and i just thought of another idea today. More in regards to giving ourselves credit and I'm planning to make another thread for it in the accomplishments forum so check it out.

NinjaFrodo · Post by **NinjaFrodo** » Tue Sep 09, 2008 4:07 am

here it is and i appologize it is the Triumps forum

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MC Grace · Post by **MC Grace** » Sat Sep 13, 2008 3:38 pm

wow i can't believe all that you've accomplished in these past couple of weeks, alone

I may not have done all that i had planned to do (and yes it was planned not expected), but i still did do a few things like thought replacement on paper, listening to the lesson cds, journaling, eatting healthy and working with the relaxation cd every once in awhile and I'm proud of myself because any effort i make is going to make me that much closer to getting me to my goal of being that person i want to be. It isn't reasonable to think that if i don't do things 100% that i won't make it to my goals. Any and every attempt will bring me closer and closer.

and the triumphs thread: wow. awesome! there's a lot there that i can try. . . . can you tell me more about writing and resistance (or writing to get through/past resistance)?