Overcoming the negative thoughts when they are real

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Aug 04, 2008 4:50 am

Frances:
Thanks for your reply. It really helps. Looking back over the relationship is was safe, did lift me up, helped me to not feel crazy and alone...it certainly was not something that could sustain me.I know that now, but still struggle with loving myself enough to not feel that loss anymore.
As for the abuse...I need to stay in this realtionship with my husband for financial reasons. I have told him right out that it is only a financial decision and that is it. But in the process my daughter won't live at home. Which is a hard thing for me, but she is making the decision based on what is best for her! I must have done something right in raising her. So right now the only decision I can make is to have him in my house. I am working on a plan to get him out again though. It may take some time, but I will not live like this forever.
Thanks again for your kind words and support.
Peace,
Cris

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Aug 11, 2008 9:24 am

Wow cinylou...you seem like a pro at this! I hope I'll get that good one day.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Aug 12, 2008 3:46 am

Hey Cris.
I am going through the same thing. However I have already been divorced for 3 years.. my ex is an attorney.LOL and it was very difficult. My son lives with me and my daughter with the ex. I was assaulted by her so there was a criminal case as well. It all worked out it just takes time. I made a plan and plugged away at it. On flip side I meet someone who was fun and exciting.. However she was an alcoholic. I didnt know this and spent way to much time trying to help someone that just cant get sober. Drives me crazy that I cant get her out of my mind even though she is so so very bad for my mental well being. This situation made my self esteem fall because I couldnt believe i was hanging on to something so negative. Just wanted to vent a little .. keep your chin up