Don't believe positive side

missobsessive · Post by **missobsessive** » Tue Mar 17, 2009 11:26 am

Hey everyone...I've been trying to notice my negative thoughts and turn them into positives, but I find that I am having a really hard time buying into what I come up with. I know we're not supposed to go to extremes, and I'm not. I think that the positives I come up with are reasonable, but I don't feel like it makes me feel any better. It's like the negative stuff has so much more power than the positive. Can anyone relate?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Mar 17, 2009 1:00 pm

Hi missobessive,
It really does takes a while for the positive thinking to kick in...Remember, it took all these years to become good at negative thinking...You just need to practice the positive thinking...The more you practice anything...The better you get at it....I did it, and so can you...God Bless!!!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Mar 18, 2009 9:22 am

Thanks T. Bones. I know...we spent so much time becoming this way. I just hate that even when I come up with positive points they don't make me feel any better really. It's very frustrating.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Mar 18, 2009 6:15 pm

Missobessive...It just is because you are new at this, and your brain hasn't had enough time to become adjusted to positive thinking...I have been there, and I know how frustrating it can be, but the more you practice, and the longer you practice it, the better you will become at it....
I promise you....God Bless

hope4peace · Post by **hope4peace** » Wed Apr 08, 2009 8:14 am

I have been feeling the same way about believing the positive thoughts, it was nice to know that I am not the only one being skeptical about it. I am going to keep practicing...When I first started week 2, I had a tough time calming myself down, but already I am able to do it a lot better than 8 days ago.

Thanks again everyone

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Oct 03, 2009 12:41 pm

Same here, I'm about 50/50 right now but I'm able to "catch" myself thinking negative. The progress is there.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Oct 03, 2009 7:14 pm

I am right there too ! Really stuck and not buying my own self talk. It feels ridiculous to me sometimes? I think "what would I say to my best friend were the tables turned?" and then I think "oh geez I need to stop giving pat answers to people in pain!" I keep praying that I get some sort of breakthru on this soon. I need to get past this session. Don't want to be here still next year.

Jill~

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Oct 04, 2009 2:54 pm

Eventually, with repetition and enough time doing this, you will begin to actually feel the effects of transforming your negatives into positives. I know, I was right where you are well over 18 months ago. The harder life got, the more crisis I encountered, the harder I worked on those journals. It seems trite, but it isn't, journaling the negatives is half the work of transforming them into positives. Anything we do for a very long time becomes something we can get very good at doing. Think of all the years you spent getting good at transforming your day into negatives. Now you have to be patient and allow enough practice time to turn those negatives into positives. If you want to build a house, and you buy some lumber, the house won't be finished. You have to actually put the lumber into place. Think of Session Three as the lumber (the tools) and your practicing and journaling are what you have to do to put Three into action, make it a normal part of your thinking. It will happen. Don't give up. You will be so much better equipped because of your efforts.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun Oct 04, 2009 4:01 pm

Pecos
Thank You so much for your encouragment. I actually have been avoiding journaling for fear that horrible things will start flowing from my pen and I know that too is irrational. So I am starting little by little and the other day I wrote some stuff down and it actually did seem to help me think a bit more logically? Wierd Huh?
Anyway thanks again for your words of wisdom.

J~

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Oct 13, 2009 2:39 pm

I had a good day on the way home. At the suggestion of a friend I took the relaxation tape with me in the car. It's only a tiny short trip but it was making me so anxious, I had the tool I needed to relax and distract myself in the car at a red light for the 2 minutes or so and it was A OK. I cleaned out my purse and before I knew it It was Green and I was off on my way.
J~