I need help with Changing My negative thinking
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I have litened to Session 3 many many times. I understand it, but it is difficult to keep the negative thoughts away. I have been through the program and actually going through it again, (faster pace). I now know you need to write down the negative thoughts and put the real or comfoting thought with it. Also, I have recently discovered that journaling (which I did not do the 1st time) is helping. I am continuing to work at it...
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Baby_Gurl,
First, be patient. As Lucinda says, it took you years to become so negative, it'll take time to reverse that habit. Something that helped me was remember that thoughts are physically a chemical reaction pathway. The more you use a particular pathway, the stronger and faster it gets. Changing the pathway can be difficult. It will take time to retrain your brain's chemicals to take a different route.
It's kind of like if you changed jobs, but the first part of the commute to your new job is the same as your old job. When you first start, you may end up at your old job without realizing it because you were just on 'auto pilot' But after awhile, because you don't want to work at your old job anymore, you will retrain yourself to recognize the point on your commute where you NEED to make a new turn if you plan on making it to your new job.
Hope that analogy is helpful. So just keep practicing rewriting your negative thoughts into neutral/positive thoughts.
Also, if you have a negative thought you can't put into a positive, post it here and I'm sure there are plenty of us out there who will help you rewrite it into a negative
Good luck!
First, be patient. As Lucinda says, it took you years to become so negative, it'll take time to reverse that habit. Something that helped me was remember that thoughts are physically a chemical reaction pathway. The more you use a particular pathway, the stronger and faster it gets. Changing the pathway can be difficult. It will take time to retrain your brain's chemicals to take a different route.
It's kind of like if you changed jobs, but the first part of the commute to your new job is the same as your old job. When you first start, you may end up at your old job without realizing it because you were just on 'auto pilot' But after awhile, because you don't want to work at your old job anymore, you will retrain yourself to recognize the point on your commute where you NEED to make a new turn if you plan on making it to your new job.
Hope that analogy is helpful. So just keep practicing rewriting your negative thoughts into neutral/positive thoughts.
Also, if you have a negative thought you can't put into a positive, post it here and I'm sure there are plenty of us out there who will help you rewrite it into a negative
Good luck!
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Guest
Hello To Everyone,
This is one of the hardest sessions without a doubt and I have done this session several times in just one day...plus many other days. It contains so much great info and I believe it is so crucial to the entire program. I don't think we can spend too much time going over this material even as we get to sessions 8 and up. As mentioned by goodwillchic...most of us have been using negative thinking for many, many years and we can't expect to have it all changed in a few weeks or even months. It does become easier and in fact you will find yourself thinking in more positive ways before you know it. I can usually stop a negative thought or attitude now as quickly as it starts. I used to flick my wrist in the beginning each time I had a thought that made me feel badly in any way and that flick would remind me to say STOP and then think of something that made me feel good. I was no longer needing to flick my wrist after about a week or so. I'm not saying that I never get times of negative thinking at all but I can stop them now where as before they would just keep building up and what may have started as a minor negative would become a lengthy involved process leading to full blown depression, anger and a panic attack. I just feel so greatfull to be able to keep it under control...it's all about baby steps and repeating good, kind, happy thoughts and rewarding your own progresses no matter how big or small. Each baby step gets us closer to the end of our life changing journey...be patient, be greatfull, believe in yourself and your ability to make changes. It will all fall into place.
Good Luck and enjoy every blessed step towards becoming the person you deserve to be.
Well Wishes To All!!!
This is one of the hardest sessions without a doubt and I have done this session several times in just one day...plus many other days. It contains so much great info and I believe it is so crucial to the entire program. I don't think we can spend too much time going over this material even as we get to sessions 8 and up. As mentioned by goodwillchic...most of us have been using negative thinking for many, many years and we can't expect to have it all changed in a few weeks or even months. It does become easier and in fact you will find yourself thinking in more positive ways before you know it. I can usually stop a negative thought or attitude now as quickly as it starts. I used to flick my wrist in the beginning each time I had a thought that made me feel badly in any way and that flick would remind me to say STOP and then think of something that made me feel good. I was no longer needing to flick my wrist after about a week or so. I'm not saying that I never get times of negative thinking at all but I can stop them now where as before they would just keep building up and what may have started as a minor negative would become a lengthy involved process leading to full blown depression, anger and a panic attack. I just feel so greatfull to be able to keep it under control...it's all about baby steps and repeating good, kind, happy thoughts and rewarding your own progresses no matter how big or small. Each baby step gets us closer to the end of our life changing journey...be patient, be greatfull, believe in yourself and your ability to make changes. It will all fall into place.
Good Luck and enjoy every blessed step towards becoming the person you deserve to be.
Well Wishes To All!!!
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Guest
I know how you feel about the negative thoughts. I just completed Session 3 Negative and Positive Dialogue and I feel so much better.
I can see and understand that I was the one who created my thoughts and in a sense my own worse enemy. I have to consciously rethink my thoughts and reword my statements.
I just keep referring to the homework responses
to get me back on track.
GV
I can see and understand that I was the one who created my thoughts and in a sense my own worse enemy. I have to consciously rethink my thoughts and reword my statements.
I just keep referring to the homework responses
to get me back on track.
GV
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Hi,I have just recently read one of the books recommended by the program, What to Say When You Talk to Yourself. This book has hundreds of ideas for positive statements. This has helped me a lot. I find that even if the ones in the book don't apply to my situation that I can use them and change them around a little bit to apply to me more specifically.