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kv93 · Post by **kv93** » Sat Jul 24, 2010 3:17 pm

i posted before but no one responded it kinda made me feel worse about myself but i really need advice after bf broke up with me i feel even worst about myself im so tired of always feeling bad about myself but i cant change it i am losing weight but still its not good enough i go out and every skinny girl i see i feel inferior too and the thought of my ex bf with some skinny girl makes me sick im so tired of sadness and rejection please help

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Jul 24, 2010 5:28 pm

We can't change the decisions other people make but we can change how we react to them. Your boyfriend broke up with you. That is his loss and you did nothing wrong. You'll find someone who truly wants to be with you. It just takes time. Don't spend anytime beating yourself up about him.
If your comfortable with your weight then it doesn't matter what other people think. If your not happy with your weight then make a plan on how you want to lose it but make sure that you are doing it because you want to not what other people think you should do. Remember your happiness is what counts.
Stick with this program. It will change the way you think and feel for the better but you have to work hard and really absorb the information.Don't give up and keep on fighting.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sat Jul 24, 2010 9:05 pm

Thank you Dominick very much for replying i appreciate your advice is very helpful i just got to take care of myself and not worry about a guy the right guy will come when i am ready for him thanks again for your advice

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Jul 26, 2010 4:48 am

Yes what dominick said was very good. I just wanted to add that yes lesson 4 will help out alot and unfortunately sometimes when people post on this set of forums nobody responds. It doesn't mean that your concern is not important because it is. It just means that people either did not know how to respond or did not actually see your thread.

Stick with the program and you may get to a point where you won't feel inferior to other people no matter how better they look or act than you.

Mike

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Jul 26, 2010 1:09 pm

Dominick...thank you.
kv93...I know how you feel. It's hard to make ourselves the safe place, but I think it's worth it. It's a process.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Jul 26, 2010 4:24 pm

Thank you Mike i appreciate your advice and your right they probably didnt know how to respond and also thanks justwantobehappy for your reply too

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jul 27, 2010 6:47 pm

Breakups are difficult and it is very understandable that you would feel hurt and you would feel even more hurt because of the depression. Unfortunately this breakup has damaged your self-esteem which is already really low due to the depression. It must feel very uncomfortable, painful and sad for you. It is likely to still hurt and feel uncomfortable but you can still get through it and you can still recover and have a wonderful life. It will take time to recover, changing your perspective on life, yourself, situations and other people is going to take time. You will have many occasions where you continue the old habits because they are habits but you will also have occasions where you make alot of progress. Recovery is a rollercoaster, it is never a straight line for anybody. You can do it and you can always turn to us for support.

Mike

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Jul 27, 2010 10:29 pm

Thanks again Mike i really appreciate your help i am very sad with out him but i know i deserve better do you have any advice on how to not feel bitter because of him?