writting down our life pass is a really hard one for me
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love4jesus
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even thou those are most of my thoughts threw all this depression and the attacks. years a go i try talking to dr and couslor etc all them said i should write a book about my life and keep a day by day writting. so i did and then releize my husband and daughter was reading it so they could figure what was wrong with me. tear me up in side. so i try cousloring and an hr a week just don't get it and i would be worst cus i wanted it all out now.... but at the same time reliving the pain of was so hard. any body can help me with this?
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love4jesus
You do not say if you have the program. I chose the program over counseling because I felt I wanted control over how much time was actually spent working on my problem. I also felt no one but myself had any real vested interest in a cure!
You say "reliving the pain was so hard" but the key is you are still living! Those of us with this problem spend too much of our day looking for the negative aspects of our lives and often feeling sorry for ourselves. We fail to see the many positive things that happen to us every day.
You were hurt by your family reading your diary but you say it was to figure out what was wrong with you. Could this not be a positive attempt by them to help?
The program is not a magical cure that kicks in after 15 weeks of 2 hours a day. What it does is give you the tools to understand why we think like we do and change our thinking to improve our quality of life.
My anxiety attacks were caused by "Scary Thoughts". The first few sessions were such a relief as I learned these thoughts were just that, thoughts and I would not act on them. That alone was worth the price of the program.
We think too much! and most of the thoughts are negative. Look for the positive aspects of your life and appreciate them. Attack life with a "Can Do" attitude and don't run from the things that make you uncomfortable.
Best Wishes
You do not say if you have the program. I chose the program over counseling because I felt I wanted control over how much time was actually spent working on my problem. I also felt no one but myself had any real vested interest in a cure!
You say "reliving the pain was so hard" but the key is you are still living! Those of us with this problem spend too much of our day looking for the negative aspects of our lives and often feeling sorry for ourselves. We fail to see the many positive things that happen to us every day.
You were hurt by your family reading your diary but you say it was to figure out what was wrong with you. Could this not be a positive attempt by them to help?
The program is not a magical cure that kicks in after 15 weeks of 2 hours a day. What it does is give you the tools to understand why we think like we do and change our thinking to improve our quality of life.
My anxiety attacks were caused by "Scary Thoughts". The first few sessions were such a relief as I learned these thoughts were just that, thoughts and I would not act on them. That alone was worth the price of the program.
We think too much! and most of the thoughts are negative. Look for the positive aspects of your life and appreciate them. Attack life with a "Can Do" attitude and don't run from the things that make you uncomfortable.
Best Wishes
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over the years and being a christain I've try to deal with them like I found my dad a few years ago and had all these question of why where etc. but when i got there my step mom and us were sitting around and she started cry and explanning her self for the abuse that was on me and my brother, and I didn't say anything, but took it all that was inside me of so much of unstanding of the times and aira for her and none of it matter any more. and I've deal with alot of stuff face on but some of it still there cus I can't get my brother to deal with it and forgive and get on with life. he is an achol: but I'm at a place where I have to deal with me and take of myself and Iam useing and putting my tools to work. but isn't writting our life down part of the tools? I try not to think so much on my past and think good and poss: but when these attacs\ks we have everything come flushing back.
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It is hard being us. A life of mental or physical abuse lead us too feeling less of a complete person. We come down hard on ourselves for everything. It took me many many years to even just say thank you to a compliment given by a friend istead of turning around and saying something negative to downplay the compliment cause I didn't feel I deserved to be complimented or I felt if I just said thank you I would sound conceited like my sister, and i didn't want to be like her. Now I know it is polite to say thank you, people don't want to hear you come down on yourself, and it is ok to take a compliment and feel good about yourself. If you feel you have already comfronted your past, and dealt with it, I don't see the need to have to write it down if it will only make you feel anxious. Just write down everything positive that happens to you in a day, and do the relaxation cd.. Having a bad past does not have to make you who you are. Take control of your life, knowing that you are in control of who you are, and believe in yourself. I say this for you and as a reminder to myself.